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I Want Commitment and Marriage, But He Doesn't Believe In It

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A tug of war between a man and a woman with an engagment ring on a string, signifying non commitment to marriage.
He doesn't think he needs a marriage certificate to love someone.

Gorgeous Alison writes to us about her long term relationship with a man who can't seem to give her the commitment she wants. She wants the whole package, including the wedding.

Her story:

Hi Jane

I am 51, 52 in January and I have been with my partner/boyfriend for 4 years. I was married for 5 years, before that my husband and I dated for 6 years before we tied the knot.

He mentally abused me and cheated on me with a much younger woman, which left me extremely insecure in every relationship since then. I have little or no self-esteem and since my divorce 20 years, I have been insecure and have had many failed relationships.Continue Reading

The Woman I Have to Thank for My 15 Year Marriage

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Scene two rings as symbol of fifteen years of marriage.
This week is my 15th wedding anniversary - and I have one person to thank for it.

I’d been looking for Mr. Right since I was a little girl.

Yes, I was one of those.

I grew up immersed in fairy tales, fantasizing about the day my prince would find me and make all my dreams come true.

The problem was, it didn't happen. At least not the way I thought it would. See, I wanted to be married at 18.

That was my goal.

Yes, that was actually the sole motivation for every single thing I did. Well, that and making a difference in the world, but even that was usually somehow related.

Every job I applied for, every opportunity I took advantage of, every place I traveled to, all of it was about finding love. And by finding love, I mean, finding HIM.

Except that my journey should have been called "Looking for love in all the wrong places" because that’s what it amounted to. Look for love in all the wrong places, from all the wrong people, with all the wrong motivation.Continue Reading

Am I Being Too Clingy?

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A text message on a mobile phone reads I miss you.
I text him a lot and he told me I was a little bit clingy.

Beautiful Justyne is dating a guy she's really fallen for. She says it seems perfect except for one problem - he told her he thinks she's a bit clingy.

Here's what she told us:

I've only been on a few dates with a guy I have met on Tinder. He is attractive, nice, and treats me like a princess.

He buys me anything I want, takes me to eat, he also drives to me for dates - it's not that far, almost an hour and a half away from each other.

When he's here it's the best time ever. We have a lot of fun together. It seems perfect - almost too perfect? We haven't really opened up to each other because he wants to take things slow.

I've never been In a relationship where we take things slow which is making me feel a little clingy. I text him that I miss him a lot and he told me that I was a little bit clingy? I don't understand how saying I miss you is clingy at all.

I have stopped telling him completely that I miss him but I want to tell him.Continue Reading

The ONLY Way To Get Him Back

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A beautiful woman with her face in her hands wonders what to do.
I'm just not sure what to do...

Some women are clear that when it ends, it’s over. They don't try to get him back and they actually don’t even want him back.

They see things clearly enough to understand the reasons why it ended and they recognize that unless he's changed in some pretty clear ways, getting him back isn’t a viable option – or at least not one that would be beneficial.

But then there’s the rest of us.

We're the ones who don’t want anyone else. We don’t even want to look anywhere else but right where he is. We’re not over him, we’re not seeing this as clearly as our friends, family, and coworkers are (they're too busy breathing great sighs of relief at the news).

We want him back!Continue Reading

Am I Rushing Things?

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A beautiful woman stands, looking downward, in front of a red brick wall.
I just want a little security, is that too much to ask?

Beautiful Diana decided to ask her long term boyfriend where he sees the relationship going, and the response she got was not at all what she expected.

Here's her story:

I am in my late 50s. I divorced my husband after 20+ years of very verbally abusive marriage. But I never lost the hope of what I will have one day - a nice, stable, loving and very committed relationship what will last forever.

I just do not want to waste my time with relationships that are just “dating”.

I work hard on my relationships, I am patient, and I know it takes time for two people to get closer and to be ready to commit. Unfortunately, no matter how good the relationship is, no matter how much he “loves” me, no matter how much he does not want to see me leaving after I had enough of waiting for him to get ready to commit, I am in the situation where I am leaving alreadythe  3rd “boyfriend” just because I do not see any signs of real commitment.

I dated my first (after the divorce) boyfriend for 1+ year.Continue Reading

One Word. NOW.

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Sand passing through the glass bulbs of an hourglass measuring the passing time representing wasting time in a dead end relationship with a man who won't commit.
Before another hour, before another day goes by.

I’ve got just one word for you today: NOW.

You need to hear this and you need to hear it now.

Before another moment goes by. Before another hour, before another day goes by.

I know just how important it is, first hand.Continue Reading

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