Getting to TRUE Love

The One Quality He Totally ADORES (Hint: You Already Have It)

A happy couple in love embrace outside. — This is what he really want you to be.

Remember that feeling you get when you’ve just read something so inspirational, when you’ve just had a great coaching session, when you’ve just had that epiphany of sorts and you’re so clear about who you are, what you have to offer and what you bring?

NOTHING can dull that shine you’re feeling.

Or at least, nothing until you step out into the world and see you’re not the only one who’s got that shine, it’s everywhere.

There is nothing quite like the comparing yourself to others to dull your own shine.

It’s deflating.

Suddenly, all those feelings you had seemed like hype.

You’re back to questioning, doubting, buying into someone else’s programming that all the good ones are taken – or at least the ones who are capable of a commitment.Continue Reading

He Says He Wants Space - Is There Any Hope?

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A beautiful woman is looking at her boyfriend with love wondering is he losing interest. — Is there any chance for us to be together again?

This week our beautiful friend Jo finds herself falling apart after her boyfriend of one year told her he wants some "space". She's wondering if there's any hope left at all.

Here's her letter:

Hi Jane,

My story is not really complicated, but it might be different than usual.

I moved to States from Europe around mid-September last year.

I was bored, didn’t have friends yet, so I went out on a date with guy met online. To be honest first date was not great. He had too much wine and started touching me which I don’t like on a first date with the guy that I just met. I was even so stupid that I let him take me home. We kissed, but I didn’t like it.

But that's how I actually met my boyfriend.

I gave him a second chance after first date, we spoke about what we want, he apologized more than once.Continue Reading

I Feel Like I'm Dying a Little Bit More Each Day

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Couple not talking after a fight on the sofa in living room at home — Please help my lonely relationship, I'm desperate to save us!

The letter this week comes from beautiful Kimberly, who says she's desperate to save her lonely relationship.

Here's her story:

We've been together for 5 1/2 years and he was who I had my first time with, it's one of the few things Im still proud of.

I just turned 25 and he just turned 30.

The changes are heartbreaking: He NEVER used to constantly interrupt me how he does now. And now he's on his phone 98% of every day and through every conversation.

Somewhere along the way he totally switched from jaw-droppingly respectful to now, if I ask one simple question, he'll reply to me in the most condescending/sarcastic tone, the way you would to a dull-minded idiot by repeating step-by-step the whole situation I had a simple yes/no question to.

Ironically, I'm the one who spends every day repeating everything I say to him 4 times because of the phone.

One night I finally snapped and told him I was about to smash it with a hammer no matter the consequences. He also crushes my spirit by micromanaging everything I do, although I know he means well and sincerely has the best intentions.Continue Reading

There Always Seems To Be Someone Else And It Just Pains Me

Here's what she wrote:

Hello!

I have been reading a few posts and I’mjust anxious to hear what you think about my situation.

I met this guy 2 years ago and we really clicked.

We hit it off from the beginning and I got super close to his family and everything was perfect. I would say we’re both very jealous people and had a few bumps in the road.

No cheating, just simple things - if a guy contacted me or a girl contacted him, things got eerie.

THIS Is How You'll Know if He Can Commit

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can or can t toggle switch — Is he even able to make a commitment?

It's a question almost all of us have faced at one time or another.

Can he commit, or am I wasting my time?

It's a question that's so very important, because being able to recognize this one – whether he's even capable of being able to make a real, long term commitment to a real relationship – is the difference between you feeling empowered and you feeling absolutely heartbroken.

See, we’ve been told from almost the time we first came into this world that we could make someone love us if we just did everything they wanted us to.

While this may have first applied to our relationship with our parents or some other close care giver when we were very young, this programming continues throughout all of our relationships in our lives. Continue Reading

Do You Remember What It’s Like to Dream a Dream?

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Beautiful young woman with long hair lying on the grass — Come dream with me, Beautiful!

I haven’t been able to let go of a coaching session I had last week.

I saw her so clearly.

Like an old soul, a deeply feeling soul. A beautiful soul that touches the earth and feels everything it encounters.

Her obstacles were practical, logical, tangible, and undeniably so.

I couldn’t put a finger on it … yet. Until she revealed to me that this way I saw her so very clearly, the description I provided her with what I was seeing when I looked at her, when I heard her, when I truly listened, was all news to her.Continue Reading