She wanted to know more.
What did I mean about this power of yes? What was I talking about? She wasn’t the only one. I heard from many of you who asked the same question.
What was I talking about in my post "The Undeniable Power of Yes"?
So we’re going back. To answer that question for the rest of us.
For those of you who got the message and for whom it was crystal clear, I’d love for you to share how it felt for you.
But for those of you who didn’t understand or weren’t clear, this is the message I had and still very much have for you.
We can say yes, we’re ready to do something different, that we’re ready to try something else, to look somewhere different, to see things in a different light. But there is a world of difference between saying we’re going to, or deciding to when we haven’t come to the place where we’re actually ready to do it.
It’s the difference between paying lip service to something and actually going all in.
It’s the difference between deciding with our heads and choosing with out hearts.
It’s bringing our souls along. It’s going all out.
It’s when we truly realize we have nothing left to lose because we’ve lost everything already, and putting that kind of passion into something.
I’ve sat on the sidelines for so much of my life, going through spurts of those “yes” moments, but living mostly on the side.
Waiting for something – anything – to change. Waiting for something – anything – to give.
Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.
What I’ve learned is that waiting doesn’t change anything. Waiting doesn’t move those mountains that you’ve already decided are impossible to move so why even try. Waiting doesn’t change how you feel.
It keeps you stuck, it keeps you doing the same things over and over again, hoping by some miracle the next time will be different.
Nothing changes because we don’t change.
We don’t shift. We don’t choose to see things differently.
Until we do.
Until we see that it’s not about the seismic changes that move those mountains all at once, but it’s in those small, seemingly inconsequential movements that will never move those mountains all at once, but WILL move them one scoopful at a time.
We don’t want that. So we don’t even try.
We want the whole package right now, or why bother to try? We look at the years we’ve already invested in one guy. We look at the time that’s already passed as we fought so hard to make something work that we would have been better off letting go and starting over with another in that same amount of time.
But at the time, it never feels that way. Keeping on doing the same thing seems easier than the alternative.
And so we do just that.
Until we’ve done it so many times, it doesn’t work anymore. Until we can’t. Until we’re so low, we’re willing to try anything different.
This is the power of saying yes when it actually means something more than what it has in the past. This is when we’re ready to make those changes.
This is when I say "Welcome to the undeniable power of yes".
Rarely is it a yes backed with this kind of power until we’ve reached the end of our rope. Rarely is it a yes supported by the kind of passion that makes everything possible until we’ve been to hell and back. Rarely is it a yes full of excitement and enthusiasm.
More often it's a yes full of a deep sense of knowing that it can only be that kind of yes.
Is there really any other kind that has this kind of power? This is what I’m talking about here, and this is what I want you to understand.
It’s the kind that finds us on the bathroom floor in the middle of the night, sick of where we are, so tired of what we’ve allowed someone to become to us.
Ready for something more.
Yes, Beautiful. This is where you choose you. This is where you pick yourself up off that floor, dust yourself off, and refuse to be held down there anymore. This is where you break free of your chains, where you rise up once more, and choose with a resounding yes, YOU.
This is your time right now. Go get on with the business of living, of loving, of creating that life you always knew was your birthright. Your time is now. You've got your yes. You've got the power behind it. All that's left is for you to decide what you want to do with it!
How about you, Beautiful? Is it your time? I know you've been through so much already. Are you ready to find out what's possible now?
Share what you're going to stop waiting for and start living for in the comments below!