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Do You Remember What It’s Like to Dream a Dream?

Beautiful young woman with long hair lying on the grass — Come dream with me, Beautiful!

I haven’t been able to let go of a coaching session I had last week.

I saw her so clearly.

Like an old soul, a deeply feeling soul. A beautiful soul that touches the earth and feels everything it encounters.

Her obstacles were practical, logical, tangible, and undeniably so.

I couldn’t put a finger on it … yet. Until she revealed to me that this way I saw her so very clearly, the description I provided her with what I was seeing when I looked at her, when I heard her, when I truly listened, was all news to her.Continue Reading

The Undeniable Power of Yes - The Rest of the Story

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A beautiful woman rising up from the grassy field with her hands in the air proclaiming Yes! — There’s a power here you can’t imagine.

She wanted to know more.

What did I mean about this power of yes? What was I talking about? She wasn’t the only one. I heard from many of you who asked the same question.

What was I talking about in my post "The Undeniable Power of Yes"?

So we’re going back. To answer that question for the rest of us.Continue Reading

The Undeniable Power of "Yes"

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When we’ve tried again and again and it still hasn’t worked, when we’re so tired of having to explain why it happened again to the same people we had told this time was different, it’s hard to feel passionate about anything.

And yet this is what love and life asks of us.

Are we sure? Is this what we really want?

There are few actions we can choose to take that will elicit the power of everything around us more than the power of saying “yes.”

Far too often we find ourselves saying “I guess so” or “maybe” out of fear, out of uncertainty or out of our need to know the end result first before diving in.

Our first reaction may be indignation or even anger at even the suggestion that we might not know what we want or be sure enough.Continue Reading

Why Standing On The Sidelines, Waiting For Things to Change, Never Gets You There

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A beautiful woman sits on a bench in a park by herself. — It's time to try something different.

What does it feel like to not have to be perfect?

Or to not care about what anyone else thinks?

Or to be the woman every man wants?

Or to finally be able to let go of him?

What is it like to live like that? To not feel like there's something wrong with you, to live your life like that confident, sassy woman you know, to say "next" when he's not ready for the commitment you are? What would it be like to live your own life like this?Continue Reading

But I Don't Want to HAVE to!

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A beautiful woman sits across from a man during a date that she doesn't want to be on. — Ugh! Why do I have to do this?

I hear these words from so many of you.

"But I don't want to have to!"

Whether you're talking about meeting new men, going to singles events, signing up for online dating, going to new places, finding your passions, following your interests, your response is so often the same.

We want it the easy way.

The way that said he was The One and your search was over.

The way that said that you didn't have to put yourself out there – again.

The way that had you imaging your future together and it felt so good!

The way that finally gave you the answer to address all those questions of "why are you still single?"

Why couldn't it be the easy way?Continue Reading

So Where Is He?

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A man stands on the edge of a pond looking at the city in the distance. — But still he eluded me.

Where is this illusive soul? Where does he hide? Where does he spend his time?

What places call to him, and who are the people he spends his time with?

I know this is what you're really asking.

Where is he? And where do I find him?

If there was one question I asked myself a thousand times, it was this one. There was no one who understood just how elusive he could be more than me.Continue Reading