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It Feels Like a Relationship, But He Says He Just Wants to be Friends

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A beautiful woman leans in close to a man who is sending her mixed signals.
Why is he sending me these mixed signals?

One of our beautiful readers from all the way over in Northern Europe is heart broken over a guy she fell hard for, who was acting like he's in a relationship with her, but then said he only wants to be friends.

Here's her story:

Hey Jane!

I am a young woman from Sweden that needs your advice. I have been asking loads of people for advice but it doesn't seem to match with what I am trying to tell them, in other words, the advice is not helping me anywhere.

Like most of your emails, this is about me and another person. This person is one odd guy that I've known for quite some time now (almost A year).

I met him right after when I broke up with my boyfriend that I was supposed to get engaged to, but we went through some issues and went separate ways. Right after that, probably one week afterwards, I met this wonderful, innocent and caring guy over social media.Continue Reading

How Your Fantasy Is The Biggest Deception Of All!

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A woman is about to kiss a man that is her romantic fantasy.
The fantasy may be keeping you from real love.

You're stumped.

You've tried everything.

You know who you are. You know what you want. You know what you don't.

You're going out to all the right places. You're doing all the right things.

You're following all my very best advice.

"What am I missing?!!"  It's the one question I hear so often.

You can't figure it out, no matter how hard you try. But somewhere, underneath everything you can see and touch and feel, it's there.

What is it?Continue Reading

Getting Over "The One"

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A beautiful woman is frazzled because she can't seem to get over a breakup.
It's been FOUR months and I still cry about him almost daily.

One of our beautiful readers, Kat, was in a wonderful long term relationship with a great guy, only to have it all fall apart as soon as she told him she was ready to take things to the next level - sound familiar?

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

I am a big fan of your website and read your posts regularly. I am trying to follow your advice and move on from a man I thought was "the one", but I am having a very hard time.

We were introduced by a mutual friend. Initially I thought he was nice, but I wasn't really interested.

I went out on a couple dates with him and didn't feel much of a spark.Continue Reading

But I Don't Want to HAVE to!

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A beautiful woman sits across from a man during a date that she doesn't want to be on.
Ugh! Why do I have to do this?

I hear these words from so many of you.

"But I don't want to have to!"

Whether you're talking about meeting new men, going to singles events, signing up for online dating, going to new places, finding your passions, following your interests, your response is so often the same.

We want it the easy way.

The way that said he was The One and your search was over.

The way that said that you didn't have to put yourself out there – again.

The way that had you imaging your future together and it felt so good!

The way that finally gave you the answer to address all those questions of "why are you still single?"

Why couldn't it be the easy way?Continue Reading

I Just Want It To Be the Way It Was

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A beautiful woman looks in a mirror wanting it to be the way it was.
I put myself out there everyday, only to feel rejected afterwards.

One of our beautiful, sweet readers, who has asked to remain anonymous, has been in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend of a year and a half, and has gone through quite a roller-coaster of difficulties, including cheating.

I've chosen to call her Plumeria, after the beautiful and fragrant flowers that are used to make Hawaiian leis.

Here's her email:

Jane,

My relationship with my boyfriend has been going on for about a year and a half.

We started dating after I got out of a two year relationship the same time that he did, and we kind of gave each other moral support.  He was always someone I was attracted to, and I had admired his relationship, and I think I was the same for him.Continue Reading

So Where Is He?

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A man stands on the edge of a pond looking at the city in the distance.
But still he eluded me.

Where is this elusive soul? Where does he hide? Where does he spend his time?

What places call to him, and who are the people he spends his time with?

I know this is what you're really asking.

Where is he? And where do I find him?

If there was one question I asked myself a thousand times, it was this one. There was no one who understood just how elusive he could be more than me.Continue Reading

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