Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
It’s the end of the year.
Another year.
Most likely another year that didn’t bring you the love you were hoping for.
Another year that ended before you were ready to claim defeat.
Another year that missed the mark in all that it promised to be at the start.
It’s enough to make the strongest among us lose ourselves in what could have been, what should have been, and what we so wanted it to be.
But there’s a problem with this approach.Continue Reading
Why do so many of us find it so difficult to move on, even when we absolutely know in our hearts that it's the best thing to do? I know I've been there, and our stunning friend Anastasia is there right now.
Why can't I let go and move on?
I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years off and on. The last time he broke up with me was 5 months ago and we have been on again off again since. I finally went no contact a month ago because even though we were talk he kept saying I care about you but don't want a relationship anymore.
We contacted each other again just last week and he was sweet for a day or so but is now being disrespectful.
I want so badly to let go but I'm having such trouble.
I'm starting to feel my self respect drifting away because I don't want to lose contact again...
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What do you do when the ex who couldn't commit suddenly decides he wants you back - but you don't know if it's just because you've moved on with someone he knows, or because he actually wants you back? What would you do?
Well, that's what our beautiful reader, Jessica, wants to know. I'm featuring her email on the blog this week, and with all the experience this community has with exes who won't commit, I know she's come to the right place.
Hi Jane,
I have a point of crossroads and I would really appreciate your guidance.
Basically my ex boyfriend and I were in a committed relationship for about two years when he was offered a job in the US. Because of the visa laws it was a situation where we would either have to commit or try another option.
Instead of exploring the different options he froze and abandoned the relationship, treating me very disrespectfully, revealing a side that I didn't recognize and cheating on me multiple times. This was about six months ago.
He then went off to the US and then a lot sooner than I expected I actually began to see somebody else and move on which unfortunately happened to be an acquaintance of his.
So as things began to develop with the new guy I knew I needed to tell my ex to be fair to the situation as they had known each other and not to hurt him anymore than the news could already. Since he had been gone I'd heard from him occasionally and of late had a couple more emotional messages of missing me and regret which I closed down and asked for his respect in leaving me be.
But when I told him about my new situation he basically reacted in a way that I totally didn't expect.Continue Reading
What is it that keeps us putting up with things we never EVER in a million years imagined we'd be putting up with?
What has us turning a blind eye, not wanting to see the truth that's right there in front of us if we allow ourselves to see? What has us believing words when the actions – the proof – show us the real story?
What keeps us so in denial?
What keeps us constantly coming back for more?
What keeps us always looking at his potential instead of reality?
What keeps us continually going back and back again for more, in the hopes that this time it's going to finally be different?
Every single day my inbox fills up with your heartbreaking letters, detailing exactly how and why you gave like you did, why you overlooked everything you did, why you did everything you thought you're supposed to do when you've met someone who gives you so much of what you believe you're looking for.Continue Reading
Our beautiful friend, Julie, has a boyfriend who says he loves her, but then doesn't spend time with her. She's wondering what to do.
My boyfriend of 5 years has been telling me for a while now that he cannot give me what I need right now in our relationship but that he loves me and wants a future with me and is still with me except he doesn't do anything with me.
He won't spend holidays or time with me but he says he will after he's done with college, he also says if I can't wait for him then I should leave.
How can he say something like that?Continue Reading
This letter is for you.
The you behind the email that says all you want is to get him back.
The you who writes that you’re in too deep to just let him go even though everyone around you, maybe even including your therapist, tells you it’s time.
The you who gives so many reasons that you can’t imagine living your life without him.
The you who can’t hear anything else that anyone says about the other side of this; you only know your heart is breaking now and he’s the only one who can put it back together. It doesn’t matter how he treats you or how much you know you deserve better.
Better isn’t him.Continue Reading
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