Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Does he ever get past this?
This not committing, but not ending things either.
This limbo.
This one foot in your world, and one foot in another. This leaving you hanging, without a crystal ball.
Will he? Or Won’t he?
And what we most want to know; is it worth waiting it out?Continue Reading
One of our beautiful readers, Kat, was in a wonderful long term relationship with a great guy, only to have it all fall apart as soon as she told him she was ready to take things to the next level - sound familiar?
Hi Jane,
I am a big fan of your website and read your posts regularly. I am trying to follow your advice and move on from a man I thought was "the one", but I am having a very hard time.
We were introduced by a mutual friend. Initially I thought he was nice, but I wasn't really interested.
I went out on a couple dates with him and didn't feel much of a spark.Continue Reading
One of our beautiful readers, who has chosen to remain anonymous, was in a friends with benefits situation and is wondering if he will ever come around and want a committed relationship with her.
Last year I moved into University halls, and basically fell almost instantly in love with one of my flatmates. He was in a long-term relationship at the time, but we got on really well and hung out a lot.
A few months into the term he separated from his girlfriend, and me and him got even closer and after a few months ended up becoming friends with benefits for about 4 months, however we basically acted like a couple, then all of a sudden he stopped things, saying he wasn't over his last relationship.
I was devastated and tried everything to get over him, but I don't think I ever stopped loving him.Continue Reading
One of our gorgeous readers, Angel, is trying to move on from a relationship with a man who won't commit.
Hi Jane,
I've been reading a lot of your blog posts for few days now, some of them I read few times too. Here's my situation that got me all confused:
I am a single mother of 2 teenagers and I am having a Long Distance Relationship with this guy from another country for 11 years now. He's working in my country on a flying in and out basis. I only saw him when he was on his way in or out from where he works (in another island).
I know this was not ideal, but we were so clicked and compatible for each other. We could talk about anything, shared so many similar interests and hobbies, basically it's a perfect relationship except that he doesn't want to have a commitment.
He said that to me 3 years since we started the relationship, and caught me by surprised.Continue Reading
Our gorgeous friend, who calls herself "Looking for Hope", has recently walked away from a really bad relationship and is worried that she might not find anyone else. (Sound familiar?)
Dear Jane,
About 6 months ago I walked away from a really bad relationship.
We were together for 5 years and engaged for 2.5 years of that time. After he proposed, he refused to set a wedding date and made up every excuse in the book like “He wasn't ready,” "we needed to save more money", or “he wanted to get to know me more.”
I drove myself crazy blaming myself for his lack of commitment and in order to put us in a better financial position I dedicated myself to paying off all of my student loans and investing in savings.
Once we got engaged, he became a workaholic where his career was his number 1 priority and starting a family or having a relationship with me was always on the back burner! I did and tried EVERYTHING, until one day it hit me that this had nothing to do with me and it had everything to do with him and his inner issues.
So, I told him that this wasn't fair anymore that I was ready for the rest of my life whether it was with or without him, that whenever I agreed to getting engaged to him we made plans of prioritizing each other and a future family and now his work was becoming the center of his life and that was not a life that I had agreed to.
It was time for him to decide what road to take, a marriage with me or the career that would make him millions of dollars.Continue Reading
One of our beautiful readers, who has called herself "Sleepless in Seattle", is wondering if the guy she's interested in will ever want a committed relationship with her, or if he just wants to be friends.
Dear Jane,
I need help with this guy.
We met each other about three months ago in a play that we were both a part of, and I liked him immediately. After a couple months of being just casual acquaintances, we began messaging over Facebook. After we began messaging, we messaged practically every night for hours for about two weeks.
He even said twice in a joking way, "Why don't we just get married already?"
Then, we hung out together with a mutual friend at the movies. Then we finally hung out alone and I felt serious chemistry between us. He was always hugging me, staring at me, touching my hands, smiling.
Then, I told him that I had feelings for him.Continue Reading
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