Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
The posts in the dating category relate to the early stages of a relationship, before the two of you are exclusive. The dating category includes topics such as where to find men, how do I find Mr. Right?, first dates, should you call him, etc.
He tells you he can’t commit. That he just isn’t commitment material.
He tells you he doesn’t know why, but he’s never been able to commit before.
He doesn’t believe it has anything to do with him. He's not sure, but he thinks it’s because he hasn’t found the right woman yet.
Okay, let’s break this down.
What happens to you when you hear something like that? That he just hasn’t found the right woman yet.
Yep. We spring up, ready to take action and rise to the challenge.Continue Reading
“Ok,” I said, when we were finally alone. I had been waiting all afternoon for just the right time to ask him this question ever since I had heard the news.
“What is it about her? Why is she the one who won your heart?”
He was the one I was always curious about. He was the quintessential “emotionally unavailable man”.
He had it all. Good-looking, successful, all-around guys guy; he epitomized the strong, silent type so many of us have long tried to change.
He had a string of long term relationships in his history with women who had all been relationship material, vying to be the one who would finally win him over.
But no one ever did.Continue Reading
Beautiful Kim writes to tell us about an emotionally unavailable man that she's fallen for.
Dear Jane,
I have read your articles and wondered whether you might be able to help me.
I am a 54 year old woman. I married young and stayed married for 22 years. My husband was very controlling and so we did not have friends.
Eventually one of my sons told me to get away from him and I found the courage to leave.
I have a good job (clinical nurse manager.) I have nice girlfriends who care and support me and I live alone in a little cottage with my little dog.
For 7 years I had not felt I wanted to be with any man. Then 4 years ago I met someone, a doctor from Poland who works 2 weeks on and has 1 or 2 weeks off when he goes home to Poland. He is 39 years old.Continue Reading
Beautiful Kim has been in an on-again-off-again relationship with a guy for quite a while now, and she's left feeling nothing but drained and confused. Sound familiar?
Hey Jane,
So I met this guy Tommy almost 8 years ago. When we first met he pursued me, got my number from his friends, texted me all the time etc. etc.
Long story short I have a son and had issues necessarily finding a sitter for him and had to cancel a couple dates. We stopped talking after about the 3rd time. I never once stopped thinking of him.
Over the years we have always tried re-connecting, hanging out. He is the guy that opens all the doors, buys all the drinks, says "Yes sir" and "Yes ma'am."
When I'd get ready to leave his house he'd refuse to let me leave and wanted me to lay with him till the morning. Even saying things like "I really miss how you fit in my arms." Promising to go do things such as football games, bike rides, etc. etc.Continue Reading
Beautiful Cassidy is dating a guy who tells her she's too emotional. She's reaching out for help to figure out if she should continue to see where her relationship is going, or if she's just wasting her time.
I met this guy on a dating site back in early December of 2016.
We had sex shortly after meeting for the first time and I wasn't expecting to hear from him after.
Yet... I did.
We've talked everyday since the day we met. He's told me things like he has only pictured spending his life with one other female other than me (which at the time he said this, I felt, was too soon to know that) and talks about the future regularly.
He had to go back to his temporary home in another state shortly after we met but visits his home state (where I live) every three-four months. I've asked him if he's seeing anyone else and he's certain he's only interested in me.Continue Reading
Our letter this week comes from beautiful Jaime, who's getting mixed signals from a man she's interested in and she's wondering if he's into her or not.
Hi Jane,
I've been getting mixed signals from this man that works at the same place as me that I find attractive for a couple of months now. One minute I'm absolutely sure he's into me, the next he's ignoring me completely.
I wasn't quite sure how to handle the situation so I left it at that. But then he tells my friend he finds me attractive even though we still don't interact much outside of work related matters.
He apparently is always inquiring about me so she arranged for a night out with people from work including him.
We talked a little "group conversation" about work mostly, exes, etc. - whatever topic someone brought up. I again concluded based on the way the night went that he wasn't into me and put it behind me.Continue Reading
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