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I'm Having a Hard Time Moving On

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Beautiful woman sad sitting on the window sill and painting on glass feeling heartbroken because it's hard to move on.
I know I need to let go, but it's hard to move on.

The letter this week comes from our gorgeous friend Gigi, who's finding it hard to move on and let go of a guy she felt she had immediate physical chemistry with.

Here's her story:

I began dating a man right before Christmas.

We both agreed to just see where things went, but we had an immediate physical chemistry. So we had sex on the second date.

We saw each other three to four times a week for HOURS at a time. Not always sex, so I began to really like him.

Then I asked him if he was seeing anyone else because I wanted to make sure we were still on equal footing. He said he was and assumed I was. I told him that I was communicating with other men, but had not actually gone on any dates with them. I assumed this was a casual date or two with this other woman because he said he wasn't in a place to get exclusive as he was trying to find a new job.

For two weeks I continued to see him and sleep with him- basically hoping he would choose me. I got needy and wondered if he was with her...tried not to mention it to him, but I"m sure it was obvious by my moods.

He told me that we needed to stop having sex because it was messing with my mind. He didn't think it was right. Then he said it wasn't fair to HER to go out with her and then come home to me. He had taken HER to parties and out with his friends and his grown kids.

I felt like a slut.Continue Reading

When “No-Contact” Doesn’t Work

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Portrait of young pretty woman sitting at a table wondering if no contact will work with her boyfriend.
Am I just fooling myself thinking I can do "no contact"?

We’re told we’re strong if we just cut our losses and walk away.

Go “no-contact”, we’re told, and we’ll feel better faster.

They’ve heard enough from us. These people who love us and only want the best for us, can’t understand why we would put ourselves through this even one moment more.

And so, with heavy hearts, but a strong resolve, we say goodbye, we shut the door, and we finally let go and move on.

We don’t answer their calls or texts. We block them on social media. We block their number.

We strengthen our resolve with calls to our girlfriends who remind us just how much better off we are without them.Continue Reading

How Do I Let Go and Find Happiness?

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 A heartbroken woman with her head in her hands, wondering how do I let go?
I can't seem to let him go and let myself be free.

This week, I've chosen a letter from one of our beautiful readers, Elizabeth. She's suffered a huge heartbreak and she's wondering how she can let go, move on, and finally find happiness in her life.

Here's her email:

I've been reading your blogs for a few years now.

I know you have answered questions and given advice about letting go, freeing yourself from your past, etc. I feel like I have a unique situation though and I am really at a loss for how to truly put it in my past.

I dated the same guy off and on from 2007-2016. Our break-ups were always very bitter and sad, and I would spend months trying to heal and forgive him and myself. Every time, once I got to the point of finally accepting everything with him, he would pop back into my life.

He would tell me how he loves me, how sorry he is for everything, and would want to give us another try. He knew I never fell out of love with him.

The break-up before the most recent one, I wrote him a letter telling him why I think our relationship didn't work and I was ready to accept that we will never be together, but I needed some closure so I wrote the letter.Continue Reading

I Always Seem To Attract The Wrong Guy

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A beautiful woman is consoled by her dog after a breakup.
I always manage to fall for the wrong guy - help!

How do you stop attracting the wrong guys? One of our beautiful readers, Nicky, is having this problem that so many of us (myself included!) have struggled with at one time or another.

Here's her email:

Hi Jane

I don't know where I'm going wrong but I always manage to fall for the wrong guy - help!

I started off in my late teens by falling for guys who either lied or emotionally black mailed me and after learning my lessons on that one I now attract guys who can't commit.

My last relationship of 3 years strung me along believing he wanted marriage and children like me but then when it came to committing to that he then just selfishly dropped me and said that wasn't what he wanted.Continue Reading

Why Looking For Someone to Replace Him Never Works

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Don’t put yourself through this all over again.

We think it will help. When our heart has been torn wide open and nothing short of him coming back will do, we do the absolute worst thing we could do; we try to find another him.

A replacement.

Someone just like him to melt away the pain. To prove we’re still worthy, still lovable. To make us feel better again.

It’s no wonder that when we first venture out again into the dating world that we’d hoped we’d left behind, we find either one of two things.

A hopelessness that he really was our last chance at love because there’s no one else out there like him.Continue Reading

Why Did He Disappear On Me?

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Angry woman stood up on a date in a coffee shop looking at her phone
On that day, I got ready, I  was happy, and sat there waiting.

Our letter this week comes from our gorgeous friend, Jade, as she tells us the story of her rocky relationship with a disappearing guy.

Her letter:

Before I ask my question, I want to give you a background story.

I've been with this guy for almost 3 years now. We've had ups and down the first year, but that's normal. But then came the twist.

Around January 2015 he left to boot camp, everything seemed okay after 3 months of not hearing from him, but then around August of last year, he left to North Carolina for school (Military) and he changed.

He stopped calling me and texting me, I caught him flirting with women on social media, he deleted photos of us, he would tell those women how he felt for them, (ex: "I find you really pretty...") and so on.

He would then tell me how annoying I was and clingy, take in mind that we were in a long distant relationship.Continue Reading

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