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The posts in the dating category relate to the early stages of a relationship, before the two of you are exclusive. The dating category includes topics such as where to find men, how do I find Mr. Right?, first dates, should you call him, etc.

Is A Long-Term, Loving and Committed Relationship Possible?

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A beautiful woman sits on the beach with her head in her hands wondering if a committed relationship is possible.
I'm so tired of breakup after breakup...

What do you do when you feel like you've tried absolutely everything, and you just keep winding up alone and heartbroken every time? Our letter this week comes from one of our gorgeous readers, Jamie, who's going through just that, and she's wondering what to do next.

Here's her email:

Hello Jane,

Last May I declared to all that I wanted to create a loving, long-term, committed relationship. In the last 17 months since I made that declaration I’ve spent over 13 of them dating 5 different men to varying degrees, the last relationship ending, sadly, yesterday.

This February I went on a date with a man I met online and from the very first moment I felt excited and optimistic that I might have found a really great guy. We dated 4 and a half months and I found myself actually falling in love for the first time in a looooooong time.

I let myself go there with this guy.

I was open and vulnerable and brave. He did some things that should have been red flags to me, but I overlooked them because I was so out of my mind attracted to him, he treated me well, and I just wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.Continue Reading

Poof! He Ghosted Me. Was it Something I Said?

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A beautiful woman lies in bed looking at her cell phone, wondering why he ghosted her.
Was it the text I sent him?

Online dating has brought us the amazing ability to connect with so many different people so quickly. Unfortunately, it also means that those same people can disappear faster than ever before. The question this week is from our beautiful friend Laura, who was recently ghosted by a guy on Tinder that she really thought she had hit it off with.

Here's her story:

I'm brand new to online dating, but a friend convinced me to give Tinder a whirl.

About a month ago I matched with a guy, and we really hit it off. Texted daily, and he asked if he could call me.

Yep, actual phone call.

Every time we talked on the phone, it was for hours. We talked about what we wanted, and were on the same page in regard to wanting to settle down, marriage, etc. He told me he was only even still on Tinder bc he was able to see my pics that way.

During that conversation, he mentioned something about me still messaging guys on there.Continue Reading

He Says "They're Just Friends"

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A guy is holding hands with one woman, while checking out and flirting with another woman
I found out from social media that he's dating other women.

One of our gorgeous readers, who has called herself "A", has been dating a guy for a while, and now thinks he's dating other women. He says these other women are just friends, but she's not sure what to do next.

Here's her email:

Hi Jane! I am so glad I have found you.

I find this website very helpful and I think for most of us, its a relief, because from my experience I get really confused and that inner voice inside of me telling me "I don't think this is going to end well".

Well here is my question: from a guy's point of view what's the idea of dating?

Because I have been dating a really nice guy for a month now, he is 3 years older than me (I am 22), although age doesn't really matter and for once I thought, wow I think this is the one. This guy seems just right, with the way he treats you, takes you out, worries about you, talks to you everyday, I feel great every time I am with him and I think it's the same feeling from his part, anyway its the whole fairy tale.

Everything it's perfect.

Suddenly just out of the blue, I noticed on the social network that he is also dating other girls. Continue Reading

Does He Change?

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Silhouette of a woman with her head in her hands while her boyfriend walks away.
Will he? Can he? Is it even possible?

It’s the question I hear most often.

Does he change?

You want to know. You need to know.

Because more than anything else, this is what you fear.

That you’ll draw your line in the sand. That you’ll say those words that will put an end to what might be. That you’ll put yourself in a place where there’s no going back.

And then he’ll change.

Your worst fear is you’ll be too late.Continue Reading

Should I Be Worried He'll Never Talk To Me Again?

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A beautiful, sad woman looks at her phone wondering if he'll ever talk to her again.
I still can't help but feel I've done something wrong.

One of our gorgeous readers, Emma, has been dating a guy for five months who suddenly told her that he needed some space, and then subsequently disappeared.

Here's her email:

Dear Jane,

I have been dating this guy for around five months.

We aren't officially together yet but we have both expressed the interest in being officially together. He works night shift and has to work most weekends with his job and lives a hour and a half away.

I only get to see him once a week usually.Continue Reading

How Do I Get My Power Back?

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A beautiful woman is looking sad and lonely because she feels like she blew it with the one.
If only I hadn't acted the way I did!

Our beautiful friend, Hope, is feeling like she blew it with a guy who she thinks was "the one", and she's wondering if she'll ever have another chance.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

Thank you, I wish I had seen these videos a few weeks back but I am definitely going to follow your advice going forward.

I do have a question though, I recently met a guy and I was very attracted to him, he had the look that I wanted and he seemed like a good guy. I wanted so much for it to work, but I scared him away, by being the pursuer and as you said being too excited and putting him on a pedestal.

He told me he didn't have time right now to be involved with anyone.

Hoping to leave the door open, I told him I understood and he could contact me if he wanted to. I guess I'm wondering if I had not acted so anxious and had followed your advice if he would have acted differently and if things could have worked out.

I feel it was all my fault.Continue Reading

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