Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Years of walking through heartbreak, both my own and with you, have confirmed one very specific thing; we don't get over it, avoid it, or use strategies to keep it from affecting us.
We walk through it. We feel it.
All of it.
There are women who follow a practical "3-step guide" to getting over a guy and that’s all they need.
They get a new hairstyle.
They get a makeover.
They buy some new clothes.
Maybe they take a trip somewhere.
But that’s not you.
No, you feel everything.Continue Reading
Our letter today comes from one of our beautiful readers, Victoria. She's asking for some advice on the heartbreak she's experiencing over someone who's clearly still looking in the rear-view mirror for his ex. Her sister's about to be at her wits' end listening to her (haven't we all had family members like that!), so she's hoping to get some fresh advice on here.
Hi Jane,
Thank you for your comments about unavailable men and us thinking they are with us when in fact they are somewhere else. I just wanted some unbiased advice as I think my sister will be fed up of me shortly and I'm on an emotional roller coaster often ending up in tears.
I have been divorced for a long time, found it difficult to get over my husband leaving so threw myself into guarding my heart to make sure it wasn't broken again and raising my child.
I was introduced by friends 8 months ago to a lovely man who I thought was perfect for me.Continue Reading
This week our letter comes from beautiful Rainie. Her on-again, off-again relationship recently ended over the holidays (why is it always over the holidays...????) and she's devastated.
I met this guy online five years ago.
We both had not been in a relationship for many, many years. He was working 7 days a week in his own business and I had a son who had disabilities and was devoted to him. We both had our commitments that prevented us from seeing each other a lot but we would communicate each day, most days of the week anyway.
We were each other’s support to a certain extent.
Two years after we first met we had a fight and went our own separate ways. I was devastated at the time... A year later he contacted me again and we ended up being in the same sort of relationship as previously which was suitable for both of us.
Two years have past since then and we have drawn closer to each other, more than before. We live a fair distance from each other, so with his work commitment and my commitment to my son we did not see each other that often.
We would just email each other all the time.Continue Reading
See if this sounds familiar: Everything was going perfectly, but then all of a sudden he pulls away and wants to end things, leaving beautiful Florence absolutely shocked.
Hi Jane,
I started seeing the most lovely, caring, thoughtful and giving guy about 3 months ago.
I had just come out of a 2 year relationship when I met him unexpectedly, so I wasn't really interested in a serious relationship just yet. However, he seemed/seems like Mr. Perfect so I decided to go along with it. He made things serious very quickly and was showering me with gifts, etc. regularly.
After about 2 months I was leaving his house after staying over, he said goodbye, as loving and caring as usual, and texted me about an hour after I left as he usually did.Continue Reading
He wasn’t the right one.
He was only in my life to teach me a lesson.
He wasn’t good enough for me.
He couldn’t give me what I know I deserve.
Whatever way we put it, the words don’t change what we feel in our hearts. We’re alone again.
He’s fine. He’s moving on. He’s not sitting back lamenting what could have been or trying to figure out how to get us back. His logical mind knows everything you know, but in his case, it’s enough for him to know it’s the best thing for the both of you.
But for you, it’s not.Continue Reading
Our letter this week comes from beautiful Charlie, who tells us her story of a painful breakup.
So, me and my boyfriend broke up about 11 days ago.
I asked him a couple weeks before if he wanted children and to marry me. He's said through the relationship that he does and has even given timescales. His answer was now "I don't know, they'd be a compromise." Then he acted strange for the two weeks after this conversation.
So I was unhappy as he was being rude and unaffectionate. We had a day out and it was like the worst first date ever.
Then Wednesday before last I cried at work because I knew I had to talk to him as he made it clear he didn't want to make plans with me the weekend before (watching fifty shades all day with his best female friend.)
So me being unhappy that he didn't even plan something with me and she wasn't even free that weekend, I got upset and decided we needed to talk.Continue Reading
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