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Should I Hang On or Let Go?

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I don't know whether to keep hanging on or just let him go.

One of our gorgeous readers, Holly, is currently going through what so many of us have gone through before. Things were going so well but now her boyfriend has changed and he's getting distant. She's wondering if she should hang on, or just let go.

Here's what she wrote:

Hi Jane,

I've been with my boyfriend for a year now.

I moved in with him soon after we met, we were having a great time and I was so happy. We were always together and out doing fun things all the time, out for meals, visiting family together, taking trips on holiday, planning ahead.

He told me how much I meant to him, how great I was, and we were so in love.

However, I feel things have turned for the worst recently - as the relationship towards the end of the year we began to argue a lot in the house and he began to get upset living with me.Continue Reading

How Do I Let Go and Find Happiness?

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A heartbroken woman with her head in her hands, wondering how do I let go?
I can't seem to let him go and let myself be free.

This week, I've chosen a letter from one of our beautiful readers, Elizabeth. She's suffered a huge heartbreak and she's wondering how she can let go, move on, and finally find happiness in her life.

Here's her email:

I've been reading your blogs for a few years now.

I know you have answered questions and given advice about letting go, freeing yourself from your past, etc. I feel like I have a unique situation though and I am really at a loss for how to truly put it in my past.

I dated the same guy off and on from 2007-2016. Our break-ups were always very bitter and sad, and I would spend months trying to heal and forgive him and myself. Every time, once I got to the point of finally accepting everything with him, he would pop back into my life.

He would tell me how he loves me, how sorry he is for everything, and would want to give us another try. He knew I never fell out of love with him.

The break-up before the most recent one, I wrote him a letter telling him why I think our relationship didn't work and I was ready to accept that we will never be together, but I needed some closure so I wrote the letter.Continue Reading

Why Did He Disappear On Me?

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Angry woman stood up on a date in a coffee shop looking at her phone
On that day, I got ready, I  was happy, and sat there waiting.

Our letter this week comes from our gorgeous friend, Jade, as she tells us the story of her rocky relationship with a disappearing guy.

Her letter:

Before I ask my question, I want to give you a background story.

I've been with this guy for almost 3 years now. We've had ups and down the first year, but that's normal. But then came the twist.

Around January 2015 he left to boot camp, everything seemed okay after 3 months of not hearing from him, but then around August of last year, he left to North Carolina for school (Military) and he changed.

He stopped calling me and texting me, I caught him flirting with women on social media, he deleted photos of us, he would tell those women how he felt for them, (ex: "I find you really pretty...") and so on.

He would then tell me how annoying I was and clingy, take in mind that we were in a long distant relationship.Continue Reading

How Could He Just Walk Away?

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A man walks away from a woman after break up.
I don't understand what happened!

This week, our gorgeous friend, Elise, is second guessing herself and wondering if she did the right thing.

Here's her letter:

Dear Jane,

I broke up from my boyfriend 6 days a go. We met a year ago and started to like each other very quickly. I am 26 and he 27.

Upon discussing values and life goals we realized some key differences, I am religious and eventually I want to settle down with children. I was resolute about not wanting to go further unless we were clear we wanted the same things.

He said he couldn't say if he wanted those things for his life and we decided to stop seeing each other. But 2 months later he got back in touch with me and after mentioning how he had visited friends during holidays and the children had loved him we entered a relationship.Continue Reading

He Stood Me Up - Should I Confront Him?

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A beautiful woman sits at a table by herself after he stood her up.
Why would he make plans and then stand me up?

Our beautiful friend, Jade, was stood up and she's wondering if she should confront him, or just walk away.

Here's her story:

I normally don't write...but I find your blogs to be extremely helpful and on point.

And I'm in need of some advice. Or just clarification on what might have happened.

I dated a guy off and on for a year. Each time we took a break it was because I wanted a relationship and he did not. His excuse was he just got out of a long term relationship before he met me and wasn't ready.

We started talking again after three months of no contact. He stated he was thinking of me and wanted to meet up for dinner soon.

I was a little reluctant but agreed.

We planned to meet on Friday and he even confirmed the day before. Friday came and went and he was a no show.Continue Reading

Things Were Going So Well - Then He Disappeared!

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Why is he completely ignoring me?

Our letter this week comes from one of our sweet readers, who has chosen to call herself "Confused and in Love (I'll just call her "Love"). Her boyfriend has suddenly stopped answering all calls, emails and texts - he's basically disappeared on her.

Her email:

Hi, I was hoping you could provide me some advice.

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 8 months. He's a great guy and always is considerate and thoughtful of me and my feelings.

The past 8 months have been fantastic, maybe some very minor bouts of miscommunication (less than what I could list on one hand) but other than that great.

He recently (less than a month ago) got a new job that he is very excited and nervous about (it’s his dream job and he wants to excel at it). Since getting this new job he’s been a bit stressed and less present in the relationship, he was still putting effort into the relationship but not as much as before.Continue Reading

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