Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
The Relationships category contains posts regarding the stage after dating, in which you are generally in an exclusive monogamous relationship. The Relationships category includes posts on such topics as meeting the family, commitment, is he the right one for you?, etc.
The email I chose to feature on the blog this week is from gorgeous Keziah. Her question is one I hear often, in many different forms, from so many of you.
How could a man not be ready for commitment yet he doesn’t want to lose you because he loves you?
- Keziah
One single sentence. But such a huge question.
How could a man not be ready for commitment, yet he doesn’t want to lose you because he loves you?
Yes, exactly! How?!Continue Reading
What do you do when you come to the end of yet another relationship that didn't work out for you? What do you do with that? Or more precisely, what do you conclude? Do you conclude that there must be something wrong with you?
This is the piece you often hear me talking about on here.
Instead of seeing it as not the right timing for you.
Instead of seeing it as not the right fit for you, either right now or always.
We tend to look at a relationship with someone as that it should work because you’ve put everything you've got into it, or you should be attractive enough, or you should be the perfect match for him.
But it’s never about what it should be. It’s about whether it is, in reality, a good fit for you.Continue Reading
Beautiful Allie shares her story of waiting endlessly for a commitment - will he ever be ready?
I am going to be 32 the end of this year.
I have been with a man for the last 9 years. We dated when we were younger, in between friends with benefits, and more recently started dating (both of us have no children and have never been married.)
My question is, he is unable to define what we are at all, completely accustomed to seeing me out of pure convenience when he can pencil me into his schedule and is okay with seeing me 1 to 2 times a week (literally.) Maybe a dinner after work, breakfast and then I'm gone by 11:00 the next morning.
We have never spent two days together or had a weekend together.
We have had multiple discussions about commitment and things improve but then 4 months later go back to the same old cycle. It's almost as if he wants his life separate from mine; his time is his and he's very set in his ways.Continue Reading
This week, beautiful Lolly shares her story with us, about how her boyfriend broke up with her through a text message, which is becoming more and more common. But, as always, the real story of the relationship goes much deeper than that.
Hi Jane.
Firstly I would like to thank you and all the amazing women in your forum for all the advice that you provide here, it has made a tremendous impact in my life.
I have been seeing this guy for over a year now. He is 34 and I am turning 33 in 2 days.
He doesn't have kids and I have 2 kids (boys). We never really labeled our relationship from the beginning (big mistake.) Everything just happened so fast, from him sending me flowers at work on my birthday after just two months of knowing each other to us spending most of our time together.
It came to a point where we were literally spending almost all the weekends together as we live very close to each other.
So as time went on and us having serious discussions about our relationship, future goals etc., he indicated to me that he was not ready for a serious relationship as he was still focusing on his career.
I made it clear that if I happen to meet someone who wants to settle down I will leave the relationship. He begged me and said if that ever happens he will have to step up and make things right with me (in my mind I thought he meant commitment.)
He has been very good to me in terms of being there for me in any manner that I can ever imagine. He was playing the boyfriend role I felt like we were in a serious relationship. He took me on vacation with his friends and their girlfriends during the new year.Continue Reading
You don’t care about being attractive to every man. You don’t want anyone else.
All you want is him.
The one you’ve got. Or at least had.
He’s the one you want. And he’s the only one.
No matter what you’ve tried before, nothing seems to work on him.
Until now.
You know what makes him commit, Beautiful?
You do.
And here’s the long misunderstood how…
It’s you, being able to see yourself without needing him to make you feel like you’re finally being seen. That’s how.Continue Reading
One of our beautiful readers, Kylie, has been dating a man virtually for over a year, but they haven't yet met in person. She's wondering if this qualifies as a real relationship.
Hi Jane,
I have been dating this guy for more than a year now and we are in a long distance relationship.
We basically never met each other yet the entire time we are dating. Though we do video call each other most of the time and text and call everyday, I don't feel like we are a thing because we are far away from each other.
We have been through ups and downs and it wasn't easy for the both of us but I am amazed how we always tried our best to make things work despite the distance and the problems we encounter.
We had broken up three times but he always comes back to me and he was the one who ended the relationship in the first place.Continue Reading
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