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I'm Afraid He'll Keep Making Excuses and Never Commit

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I'm afraid he'll keep making excuses and won't ever commit!

One of our gorgeous new readers, Beverley, tells us her story about her long term boyfriend first wanting to move in together, but then changing his mind and pulling away. She's wondering if he'll ever commit.

Her Question:

Hi Jane,

I have stumbled across your page by chance but is extremely relevant to where I'm at in my relationship at the moment.

I just read "3 Biggest Warning Signs He'll NEVER Commit" and I'm worried. I have been with my boyfriend for coming up on 3 years now.  I am 27 and he is 25. I am a little confused as to where to start with my concerns as there are a number of mitigating factors in what has gotten us to where we are (that being nowhere).Continue Reading

There's A Reason For The Pain

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There's a reason it hurts as bad as it does.

There’s something I have to say. You need to know this. Now.

Because when you’re in it, you’re not going to see this part. You can’t when your heart is breaking.

When you’re hurting, when you’re grasping at anything and everything to try and keep him from pulling even further away, this part will be the hardest to hear.

There IS a reason.

There’s a reason it hurts. There’s a reason for the pain.Continue Reading

Should I Reach Out To Him?

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He hasn't called - should I reach out to him?

Today on the blog, I’m featuring a letter that could have been written by so many of you. It’s such a familiar story that just about all of us can relate to.

When we meet someone and exchange numbers and yet we don’t hear from him, we all ask ourselves the same question: Should I reach out to him?

Add on as many more words as you want, go into as many specifics as we all do, but at the end of the day, it’s always the same question: What do I do?

In this case, the letter came from one of our lovely readers, Sophie.

Here's what she wrote:

I met a guy a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers.

The same day we talked for a few hours outside in the car. After that night I never heard from him.Continue Reading

Should You Be Dating Multiple Men at the Same Time?

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Pretty woman standing and juggling with red balls representing dating multiple men at one time.
Afraid to juggle more than one guy at a time? Here’s why you should be afraid NOT to!

With every new relationship, we learn. Every time our hearts break, we learn.

I’ll never do that again, we say. I’ll make sure to do this instead. Sound familiar?

I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t NOT jump in with both feet whenever that intense chemistry kicked in. I used to wonder why I couldn’t be like other women who managed to keep their objectivity and take their time getting to know a new guy without putting all their eggs in one basket.

Because unlike them, I spent way, way too much of my time and energy waiting for him to call, to make plans with me for the weekend.  It was such an anxiety-provoking way to live waiting on him like this, and yet doing anything else - making plans with someone else -seemed like I would be showing him I wasn’t all that interested and he would lose interest in me.

Turns out, the opposite is true. This is now one of the things I would do so differently.Continue Reading

Is He Interested or Not?

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A woman looks at her phone wondering if he's still interested.
Is he really interested, or am I just bugging him?

Our beautiful friend, Dani, has been texting a man for six weeks on Tinder, but now he's pulling away. She's wondering what's going on.

Here's her email:

I met a guy on Tinder. We have been texting for about 6 weeks.

We had plans to meet twice but he couldn't make it either time...once he said his daughter's mother's family had a family emergency and he had to get his daughter. The second time he said he lost his phone and couldn't contact me.

Recently, he never initiates conversations.

He says he's been sick. I feel like I am bugging him but he told me he doesn't mean to make me feel unwanted by him. I already asked him not to waste our time...if he's not interested, just tell me.

Can you help me understand what he's doing?Continue Reading

The Truth Underneath

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Don't be afraid of the truth. Ever.

I used to be so afraid of the truth coming out.

The truth about whether he was really into me, the truth about who he really was, the truth about whether he was ready for a commitment and especially the truth about whether he would ever want to marry me and have children.

I’d always just assume we were on the same page because after all, we were having so much fun, and it was so much easier to keep enjoying what we had rather than ruin everything with reality checks.

So much easier to keep on going then rocking the boat with things that would surely work themselves out in the long run if we were meant to be.Continue Reading

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