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The Common Denominator

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The word love written in twigs against bark with a red rose on top.
What does it really mean?

What is it that keeps us putting up with things we never EVER in a million years imagined we'd be putting up with?

What has us turning a blind eye, not wanting to see the truth that's right there in front of us if we allow ourselves to see? What has us believing words when the actions – the proof – show us the real story?

What keeps us so in denial?

What keeps us constantly coming back for more?

What keeps us always looking at his potential instead of reality?

What keeps us continually going back and back again for more, in the hopes that this time it's going to finally be different?

Every single day my inbox fills up with your heartbreaking letters, detailing exactly how and why you gave like you did, why you overlooked everything you did, why you did everything you thought you're supposed to do when you've met someone who gives you so much of what you believe you're looking for.Continue Reading

4 Habits to Bring You Closer to Love

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A beautiful woman smiling in a park.
Smile - it makes you feel better (and more attractive) instantly!

You say you're done.

You say you're ready to find the love you've been searching for your whole life.

But do you really mean it?

It's time to start living like you mean what you say. No more excuses, no more putting your love life on hold while the days slip away.

Yes, it's going to require some work on your part. But this is one where you set the pace. How quickly you want this to happen for you is completely up to you. Continue Reading

So Where Is He?

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A man stands on the edge of a pond looking at the city in the distance.
But still he eluded me.

Where is this elusive soul? Where does he hide? Where does he spend his time?

What places call to him, and who are the people he spends his time with?

I know this is what you're really asking.

Where is he? And where do I find him?

If there was one question I asked myself a thousand times, it was this one. There was no one who understood just how elusive he could be more than me.Continue Reading

The Truth About Just How Powerful You Are

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A beautiful woman in a field is looking up, enjoying the sun on her face, recognizing her energy and power.
When you start moving towards what you want, amazing things happen.

Something happens to you when you start moving forward.

However you got here, whether you were searching on Google for some answers or looking for recommendations from friends, from the moment you reach out and become a part of this community through your comments, your emails, taking one of my programs or partnering with me in coaching, a subtle shift begins.

Something new or different begins to show up.

You might not even notice it (although if you're working with me I'll be sure to point it out) yet slowly but surely a shift happens.

Things begin to move.

No matter how small it may be, that it's happening at all is enough to show you it's real.

Because it is.Continue Reading

Am I Not Meant to Find Love?

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A drawing depicting a man and a woman getting married against a white background with a red slash through it symbolizing she is not meant to find love.
I always wanted a husband and family, but what if it's not meant for me?

One of our beautiful readers, Annie, is heartbroken after a recent break up, and is questioning whether she's just not meant to ever be in a loving relationship.

Here's her email:

Hi Jane,

It's been less than two months when I broke up with my ex who lied to me just about everything and cheated on me with number of people. In fact the 10 months he made me believe he loved me, he never did while I was in love with him.

He was honestly the worst person I've met. He broke my heart, took an advantage of me and it still hurts a lot.

Since then I have slowly started healing but this break up has made me almost lose hope sometimes.

I'm 35 almost 36 and not getting any younger.

I have also met not only one but many wrong guys and although some people always say I'm a relationship type person I seem to be alone year after year.

The last relationship being the tip of the ice berg of him taking advantage of me, of wrong person since I had been alone for a very long time before that also only having short 3 month things with other wrong people.

He chose wrong and it was unfair 'cause I am not like the others.

I'd rather be alone and happy than be trying to find someone through online dating or going to nightclubs and bars to look for someone. I don't need someone to hug me just for fun. If I ever meet someone it is because we share something in our hearts and that now brings me to question my life.

What if I am just not the relationship type of person?Continue Reading

Your New Dream this Christmas

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The word love and a heart symbol written in snow.
It's time for a new dream this year - real LOVE!

It's that time of year again - the season that brings up so many mixed feelings. On the one hand, it's a time of excitement and joy; on the other, we're often filled with melancholy and loneliness, particularly when we don't have someone special in our lives.

Yes, it's the holidays.

If you're at all like I was (and I know you are), you approach the holidays so idealistically, overflowing with optimism. We always go into it believing that this time things will be different. Better.

This time, your mom will really hear what you're saying. This time you and your dad will really connect and share some special moments. This time your uncle will stop ribbing you about being "still single". This time there won't be family arguments after (or during) dinner.

The dream.

And then there's what I like to call the dream.

This time, we think, he's going to finally realize what he's got in you, and he's going to want a committed relationship.

You can picture it in your mind so vividly:

He comes walking up the path to your front door, a dozen red roses in hand, tears in his eyes. "I've been such a fool" he says.Continue Reading

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