Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Beautiful Jillian is scared, and she needs our help.
Here's her email. It's short and to the point, but it tells the story I hear over and over again, from women who are in a place we've all been too often:
Jane,
Truly, I love him. I do. And I just can't let him go.
But I don’t know what to do.
Not too long ago things were wonderful, but now he seems busy all the time. I call him, text him - nothing is working.
I’m scared it's over - please help!
-JillianContinue Reading
I used to be so good at this. So good, that I could spot him a mile away.
That look. That walk. That talk. That other part.
Unfortunately, I was also especially good at running towards him, instead of in the opposite direction.
The fastest way to crossing paths with Mr. Right is recognizing Mr. Wrong and getting yourself out of there, pronto. As in - as soon as you can tell the difference. We waste so much time and energy trying to make someone into Mr. Right, that just knowing what you're looking for – and what you're NOT looking for - can make all the difference.
How will you know? It’s not him. It’s you.
You won’t be able to resist him. You won’t want to slow it down. You won’t be able to help yourself.
He’s charming. He’s irresistible. He comes on strong. He’s got an unmistakable confidence to him with just a hint of vulnerability that only you can see sprinkled in. He gives you the impression he could choose any woman in the world … but he’s chosen you.
Sound familiar?Continue Reading
Our gorgeous friend Rachel is asking for our help.
Please help.
I had been talking to this guy for the past 3 months online, then we met up and had 3 wonderful dates. He had to go away to work for 5 weeks in another country, but we stayed in touch for the first 3 weeks until I noticed that he had been spending a lot of time on WhatsApp.
I had my suspicions that he was talking to other girls, so I started to check the website and he had been active daily.
I asked him about this, and he said he’s not speaking to anybody else and would like to get to know me better when he’s home. Anyway, this continued for over a week, but I was noticing he was on WhatsApp late at night and on a dating site.Continue Reading
Our beautiful friend Julie is going through an age old problem so many of us have encountered before; the guy who wants all the "benefits" but doesn't want the relationship!
Hi there, I am not a younger lady, I'm a mature 56 year old and never needed an answer to a personal matter before!
I have been friends with a man for 3 years now and nothing but friends, going for drinks and a meal, to a meal at his. No hugs or a peck goodbye until about 2 months ago we became friends with benefits!
We have always texted mostly daily throughout the 3 years, mostly him first.
I started to have feelings 18 months ago but never told him. Since the friends with benefits started, my feelings have become stronger and I couldn't hide it from him! He likes me very much and we really get on but he doesn't want anything more, like a relationship!
I have backed off and he's still trying me, asking what I'm doing or what have I done and have a nice day but I haven’t replied!Continue Reading
One of my group coaching clients inspired this post (thank you - you know who you are!)
I mean, really, who of us hasn’t been on a great first date with a guy giving all the good vibes, thinking there are going to be so many more down the road, only to be left with that awkwardness when he doesn’t say anything at the end of the date?
All too familiar, right?
So let’s break that down. Why DOESN’T he make sure he’s on your calendar again before he says goodbye? Is it because he’s not interested? Did he not have as good a time as he seemed to? What’s really going on behind the scenes?
First of all, we’ve got a culture that has a whole lot of unwritten rules that influence our men in general, especially when it comes to planning next dates.Continue Reading
I don’t want to just give you more of what hasn’t and still isn’t working for you.
I want this to be what finally breaks through to you in a way that I once needed something to break through for me.
Because even though I got out of it (like you will), it wasn't the way I wanted it to go at all. I would go on to repeat the same pattern over and over again for years.
Why?
Because just like you, I was looking for someone to commit to me, but I was going about it all the wrong way.
Listening subconsciously to all those cultural messages that I couldn’t have seen at the time because I was too immersed in it, I didn't choose the ones who were actually ready for a commitment and actively looking for one; I picked the guy who wasn’t ready or at his very best, was confused about exactly what it was he wanted! The guy who I would have to make WANT to commit to me.
And then I put it all on myself to somehow defy his entire history to be the first woman in the world to finally make that happen. Sound familiar?Continue Reading
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