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Remember when you first learned to ride a bike? It's the same thing.

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It's time to spread your wings again.

Out of all the tips and tricks you read about everywhere you look these days, there's just one thing that makes anything "work" for you.

It's you!

Remember the phrase, if you could see yourself the way someone who loves you sees you, you would never EVER allow yourself to be treated this way? That's it!

Find someone in your life who sees you like this and hold that vision they have for you.

They don't see you being used, they don't see you being treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. They see you being loved!

It's like learning to ride a bike with training wheels, then someone holds the bike for you when you're ready to take them off. They become the training wheels, steadying you until you're riding by yourself. And before you know it, you're flying high because they let go!Continue Reading

Think you know the single biggest motivating force behind your relationships?

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What do you believe love really is?

I've got a question you'll want to answer right now, Beautiful.

It matters because it's at the root of all your relationships, whether it's conscious or not, and it's past time we get you to the bottom of this mystery of why you keep finding yourself in the relationships you do!

What was the first belief you held about love, whether you realized it or not?

Love conquers all?

Love is only for some select few?

Love is blind?

Love hurts?

I've been studying relationships and the question of why we choose who we do long enough to see a direct correlation between what we believe about love and who we find ourselves in relationships with, whether you even realize you hold these beliefs or not.Continue Reading

When Do You Know?

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After those first few months, here's what I knew.

That was her question.

In our group coaching session over the weekend, one of the women who's experiencing something that seems like real love for the first time in her life asked me about when my husband and I first said the words "I love you", and how I knew I was in love with him.

Here's what I told them ...

I didn't know what I was in with my husband. I only knew how different it felt, how real it felt compared to the fantasy kind of love relationships I was used to, the kind that broke my heart almost as soon as I gave it away.

It was a few months after we'd met for the second time. We were at his friend's wedding in Santa Barbara, California.Continue Reading

What Is Love?

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What does it mean to you?

What does love mean to you?

Yes, really. What does love mean to you?

This thing that you find so elusive, that comes and goes in ways you never seem to see coming. This thing you’ve banked all your hopes and dreams on. This thing you’d give anything to experience firsthand.

Is it love?

Or is it the idea of love you’re chasing after?

I ask this only because I thought I was looking for love.

I’d have argued ostensibly with anyone who tried to tell me otherwise. And yet when I finally figured out what had been going wrong with every single one of my relationships, I realized I had only been looking for my own idea of love.Continue Reading

Culture. Power. Love....and You.

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Especially you.

All right, Beautiful. Today’s letter comes from yours truly - me!

With our official self-love day (aka Valentine’s Day) coming up right around the corner, I'm feeling really excited.

I’m so excited about the seismic shifts going on in our culture right now, and how much we’re waking up. Some of us are waking up slowly, and some of us are waking up really, really fast.

Some of us just to want to crawl right back into bed.

Well, if you’re here, I know you're at least starting to wake up.  And I’m also pretty sure you’re a feeler. In the most beautiful sense of the word.

You feel everything - and no, that’s not a fault or a flaw - it’s an asset. A beautiful one, and one that will always have your back.

The conversations we’re starting to have in every part of our society – and especially in the corridors that were previously off limits - absolutely have to happen before anything changes.Continue Reading

What No One Ever Tells You About Real Love

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It's the part about real love they left out.

I wasn’t real.

They, on the other hand, might have been. But I would never know.

Because until I was able to get real, nothing was real. What I came face to face with was the reality that I didn’t know how to be real. I was too busy trying to be perfect.

Trying to figure out what it was they wanted me to be and then being that. Trying to prove my worthiness, my perfectness, my "perfect girlfriend-ness".

That’s all I knew. And that’s what I thought mattered.

I knew I wanted someone to choose me, to make me feel like something. To give a life to fit into. To give me a world to fit into and a role to play. To give me the instruction sheet on how to do a relationship.

Just tell me what you want me to be and I’ll be it.  Continue Reading

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