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He Said He'd Call, But He Didn't

A woman looks at her phone wondering why her boyfriend hasn't called. — Should I reach out to him?

Beautiful Jude writes about the situation she's in, wondering why he hasn't called when he said he would, and I know so many of us can relate to this one!

Here's her email:

He said he'd call yesterday, but didn't. Why does this make me feel so needy?

Why don't I just contact him? It's been going well so far.

So afraid of being vulnerable and of finding out he's not as committed as I hoped. And that I'll then put up with it...

How do I approach this without sounding like a lunatic and without compromising myself? Is it OK to say "I was expecting to hear from you; is all OK?"

Then how do I trust his answer... Oh dear!Continue Reading

I Don't Know if I'm in a Relationship With Him or Not

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A beautiful woman leans her head against a tree, looking unsure. — I don't even know if I can call this a relationship.

One of our gorgeous readers, Nate, is questioning the relationship she's in.

Here's her story:

I've been in a relationship with a man for almost 3 months now.

He doesn't text or call, I'm always the one initiating communication. I spoke to him about it and he said that he's not a text or call person, the only person he calls is his grandma.

This guy is a graphic designer and always active online, twitter and Instagram but never checks up on me. When I do, he takes forever to reply to it.

He tried to call after my discussion with him but here's another issue, his call is always very official - like how are you and have a good day.

The only time he said something nice is when we are having sex or making out, those are the times he says he loves me.Continue Reading

Should I Reach Out To Him?

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Woman text messaging on her phone — He hasn't called - should I reach out to him?

Today on the blog, I’m featuring a letter that could have been written by so many of you. It’s such a familiar story that just about all of us can relate to.

When we meet someone and exchange numbers and yet we don’t hear from him, we all ask ourselves the same question: Should I reach out to him?

Add on as many more words as you want, go into as many specifics as we all do, but at the end of the day, it’s always the same question: What do I do?

In this case, the letter came from one of our lovely readers, Sophie.

Here's what she wrote:

I met a guy a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers.

The same day we talked for a few hours outside in the car. After that night I never heard from him.Continue Reading

Should I Call or Text? I Don't Want to Lose Him

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A beautiful woman looks at her phone, worried, wondering if she should call or text him. — I haven't heard from him since Sunday. Should I call or text?

What do you do when you're afraid he's going to go back to his ex? Our letter this week comes from our gorgeous friend Hannah, who is going through exactly that.

Here's her email:

Hello,

I'm desperate for your help and wouldn't normally be so needy but I don't know what to do.

Before I go into detail, here is a little break down of timings etc., as it's all a bit complicated:

2010 - My boyfriend starts dating his ex.

2013 - My boyfriend moves his ex into his house.

2013 - Things start to fizzle out between my boyfriend and his ex. She adores him but he isn't sure and she moves out of his home in November 2014 and they take a break so he can get his head straight and decide what he wants. It's in this same month that he and I start seeing each other.Continue Reading

How Calling or Texting Him Only Changes One Thing

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A woman is wondering if she should call or text him. — Calling or texting him won't change him, but it will change you!

It's the 21^st century. A most confusing time when it comes to the age-old question of "Can I call him or do I have to wait for him to call me?"

And I know you've been overwhelmed with so many different answers to that one question. Everyone seems to have a different answer for you, with different reasons to back them up and different way of letting you know. But behind all this confusion, lies a simple basic truth that has always been the same, that will never change regardless of what our culture chooses to do.

If you call him or text him when you haven't heard from him, it won't change the way he feels about you, it won't change whether or not he was going to call you anyway.

But it will change you.

Because there's something we do with ambiguous situations like this. We go to our #1 go-to place - that place known as "overthinking".

The one where we question whether we shouldn't have said something. Or if we should have said something else instead of what we did say. Where we get hung up on what he thought, or what his response (or non-response) meant.

Where we blame ourselves completely for what we should have known. Or for even calling or texting him at all.

This is what changes us! Continue Reading

Does It Matter Who Does the Calling?

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Our dear friend, who calls herself "Agonizing in Ohio", is asking the questions just about all of us have asked ourselves at one time or another (some of us many, many times): Why hasn't he called, and should I call him?

Here's her story:

Hello,

I'm 53, have been married once, and single for 21 yrs. I'm a entrepreneur for the last 25 yrs, I am most attracted to entrepreneurs.

I know what I want, and would like to find love, and someone to spend my days and nights with, but more than that, someone to build a future with.

On Sept 1, I started talking to a man, he's a entrepreneur, handsome, my age, our kids are grown, he's been divorced for three yrs, and when we met he said he was tired of being the third wheel. We live 90 miles from each other, but that doesn't really matter - I'm in his area all the time with my work.

We talked or texted or emailed almost everyday for the last two months. We've had two dates that were amazing - at dinner we would look into each others eyes, and giggle like two kids in love. He seemed very sincere, polite, always called when he said he would.

He told me he loved my laugh, and after the date, I was the best part of his weekend - even said maybe next spring I could go to France with him. We were building on our conversation, on how we were alike, and how he understood me.

He was in France for a week and emailed and sent pictures everyday, said he couldn't wait to see me when he got back....Continue Reading

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He Said He'd Call, But He Didn't

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I Don't Know if I'm in a Relationship With Him or Not

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Should I Reach Out To Him?

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Should I Call or Text? I Don't Want to Lose Him

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How Calling or Texting Him Only Changes One Thing

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