The type of women we are, the loving, giving, caring, understanding, women we are, we'll do almost anything for love.
We'll do almost anything for our dreams. For the chance to make those dreams come true when we find someone that we think might be the one.
We give and we give and we give and we give.
And then we give some more.
We long for nothing more than to be loved the same way we love.
To be held the same way we hold.
To be made a priority the same way we make him a priority.
We get so caught up in this crazy quest for love that we forget to do the most important thing of all:
To stand.
To stand in the beautiful light of who we are.
We shrink so well.
We apologize all too well.
We minimize ourselves so effortlessly.
We comply so easily.
We accommodate like it's our natural state of being.
But we've forgotten how to stand.
We've been taught this since our first days on earth. We're rewarded with love and gifts for being good, for being nice, for being respectful, for being everything a good little girl should be.
When we finally venture out into the great big world beyond, it's only reinforced for us all over again.
Put everyone else first, before you, and you'll get along just fine. We do this just too well.
It's so ingrained in us; it's become a part of who we are.
Sitting, waiting, making ourselves smaller so that someone else's light can shine first. Apologizing for things that we never need to apologize for, downplaying our attributes so that we don't offend anyone with our pride. We've been down this road too far and too long.
It's time to remember what it means to stand.
To stand up for what we want.
To stand up for what we believe in.
To stand up for ourselves when things aren't the way we want them.
To stand up to someone we don't want to lose, but still say what's in our heart and on our mind.
To stand instead of running away when we're confronted.
To stand instead of backing down when we know what we need to do.
To stand and be silent when there's nothing more to say.
You see, something happens when we stand like this. When we stand in our own strength, in our own space, in our own steadiness. Something changes inside us. Something changes around us. Something changes about us.
We feel stronger for standing.
We feel more confident, more sure of ourselves, more able to speak our own truth calmly and confidently from a place of our truth instead of someone else's. We can focus better on ourselves, instead of everyone else.
It's the way we're meant to be. To stand like this.
Not standing over anyone, not standing under anyone, but standing as equals in the light of who we are and what we bring to the table.
It's your turn now. It's time to feel that power and strength that you own. It's time to show the world all that you are and all that you have to offer. You know this, even if you've forgotten it somewhere along the way.
It's time to take that stand!
What do you stand for? Share it with us in the comments. It's time.
Stop.
Why is it that we keep finding ourselves with people who don't love us like we deserve to be loved?
Today’s post has been contributed by Alexis Meads, a lifestyle and wellness coach.
It's Thanksgiving here in the United States, and I wanted to take the opportunity to let all of you know just how thankful I am that you're all here, and for the words of encouragement that you share with me and with our community.
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