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I Had My Suspicions So I Started to Check the Website and He Had Been Active Daily

Man is cheating on his girlfriend texting the other woman while she sleeps in bed next to him. — He's always on WhatsApp late at night.

Our gorgeous friend Rachel is asking for our help.

Here's what she wrote:

Please help.

I had been talking to this guy for the past 3 months online, then we met up and had 3 wonderful dates. He had to go away to work for 5 weeks in another country, but we stayed in touch for the first 3 weeks until I noticed that he had been spending a lot of time on WhatsApp.

I had my suspicions that he was talking to other girls, so I started to check the website and he had been active daily.

I asked him about this, and he said he’s not speaking to anybody else and would like to get to know me better when he’s home. Anyway, this continued for over a week, but I was noticing he was on WhatsApp late at night and on a dating site.Continue Reading

There Always Seems To Be Someone Else And It Just Pains Me

Here's what she wrote:

Hello!

I have been reading a few posts and I’mjust anxious to hear what you think about my situation.

I met this guy 2 years ago and we really clicked.

We hit it off from the beginning and I got super close to his family and everything was perfect. I would say we’re both very jealous people and had a few bumps in the road.

No cheating, just simple things - if a guy contacted me or a girl contacted him, things got eerie.

Am I Crazy to Think He’s With Someone Else?

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A beautiful woman looking down sadly, trying to let go and move on. — I feel like he wants to leave me.

Beautiful Lara is wondering if her man is seeing someone else behind her back (her letter has been edited for readability):

Here's her story:

I’ve been with a man for 4 years. We used to laugh, go out together, be intimate. He would communicate.

He used to spoil me. Now he doesn’t.

Now he comes over at 11 PM, and all he wants to is watch movies. He doesn’t text, rarely calls. He used to come over on Friday’s, but now I often don’t see him all weekend.

I’ve never been to his house, I’ve only met 3 of his close friends, and I’ve never been invited to any of his family events.Continue Reading

Is He The One?

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Angry girlfriend shouting at boyfriend showing text messages from other woman on his mobile phone. — My heart believes he's the one, but in my mind I know it's not right.

I receive so many letters asking this question. The stories may be different, from women from all different walks of life, all different ages and from all different parts of the world, but the question is always the same.

Is he the one?

It’s easy for me. After all, without the emotional attachment, I’m able to hold an objective view that you can’t see when you’re so emotionally invested.

But there’s one thing that I use to make that assessment more than anything else. What you say.

When you tell me you love him BUT. When you tell me he could be the one EXCEPT.

When you have all the reasons he could be but then in your words you say the one thing I’m waiting for, you tell me everything. Everything.

That’s where you need to go, Beautiful.

There. Right there.Continue Reading

Which Path Should I Choose?

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A beautiful woman walks down a path, representing different choices in her relationships. — Please help me make the right decision!

What do you do when the ex who couldn't commit suddenly decides he wants you back - but you don't know if it's just because you've moved on with someone he knows, or because he actually wants you back? What would you do?

Well, that's what our beautiful reader, Jessica, wants to know. I'm featuring her email on the blog this week, and with all the experience this community has with exes who won't commit, I know she's come to the right place.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

I have a point of crossroads and I would really appreciate your guidance.

Basically my ex boyfriend and I were in a committed relationship for about two years when he was offered a job in the US. Because of the visa laws it was a situation where we would either have to commit or try another option.

Instead of exploring the different options he froze and abandoned the relationship, treating me very disrespectfully, revealing a side that I didn't recognize and cheating on me multiple times. This was about six months ago.

He then went off to the US and then a lot sooner than I expected I actually began to see somebody else and move on which unfortunately happened to be an acquaintance of his.

So as things began to develop with the new guy I knew I needed to tell my ex to be fair to the situation as they had known each other and not to hurt him anymore than the news could already. Since he had been gone I'd heard from him occasionally and of late had a couple more emotional messages of missing me and regret which I closed down and asked for his respect in leaving me be.

But when I told him about my new situation he basically reacted in a way that I totally didn't expect.Continue Reading

I Just Want It To Be the Way It Was

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A beautiful woman looks in a mirror wanting it to be the way it was. — I put myself out there everyday, only to feel rejected afterwards.

One of our beautiful, sweet readers, who has asked to remain anonymous, has been in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend of a year and a half, and has gone through quite a roller-coaster of difficulties, including cheating.

I've chosen to call her Plumeria, after the beautiful and fragrant flowers that are used to make Hawaiian leis.

Here's her email:

Jane,

My relationship with my boyfriend has been going on for about a year and a half.

We started dating after I got out of a two year relationship the same time that he did, and we kind of gave each other moral support. He was always someone I was attracted to, and I had admired his relationship, and I think I was the same for him.Continue Reading

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I Had My Suspicions So I Started to Check the Website and He Had Been Active Daily

Here's what she wrote:

There Always Seems To Be Someone Else And It Just Pains Me

Here's what she wrote:

Am I Crazy to Think He’s With Someone Else?

Here's her story:

Is He The One?

Which Path Should I Choose?

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I Just Want It To Be the Way It Was

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