Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
There’s something I have to say. You need to know this. Now.
Because when you’re in it, you’re not going to see this part. You can’t when your heart is breaking.
When you’re hurting, when you’re grasping at anything and everything to try and keep him from pulling even further away, this part will be the hardest to hear.
There’s a reason it hurts. There’s a reason for the pain.Continue Reading
Our beautiful friend, Tali, had her boyfriend of 4 months suddenly pull away and then disappear and she's wondering if he'll ever come back.
Dear Jane,
Thank you I just read your reply to Elise's email and it helped me as your emails always help me when I'm going through these constant painful patterns.
The guy I had been seeing for 4 months, who was calling me every day, sometimes even talking on the phone for hours and we were going on dates...messaged me and told me he needs time and he will find a way to get our connection back.
I was very upset and wrote back to his message including questions and he never wrote back.Continue Reading
Oh, the pain of getting dumped!
Just about all of us have been there before, some of us quite often. Our beautiful friend Tony has just gone through this (again), and is wondering why she keeps getting dumped for other women.
Wow, I honestly never pictured myself writing to you especially after I got my boyfriend, who is now my ex as of yesterday.
So here it goes...
I don't know how to explain how I feel. I am caught between two emotions: hurt and relief.Continue Reading
This week, our gorgeous friend, Elise, is second guessing herself and wondering if she did the right thing.
Dear Jane,
I broke up from my boyfriend 6 days a go. We met a year ago and started to like each other very quickly. I am 26 and he 27.
Upon discussing values and life goals we realized some key differences, I am religious and eventually I want to settle down with children. I was resolute about not wanting to go further unless we were clear we wanted the same things.
He said he couldn't say if he wanted those things for his life and we decided to stop seeing each other. But 2 months later he got back in touch with me and after mentioning how he had visited friends during holidays and the children had loved him we entered a relationship.Continue Reading
Our letter this week comes from one of our sweet readers, who has chosen to call herself "Confused and in Love (I'll just call her "Love"). Her boyfriend has suddenly stopped answering all calls, emails and texts - he's basically disappeared on her.
Hi, I was hoping you could provide me some advice.
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 8 months. He's a great guy and always is considerate and thoughtful of me and my feelings.
The past 8 months have been fantastic, maybe some very minor bouts of miscommunication (less than what I could list on one hand) but other than that great.
He recently (less than a month ago) got a new job that he is very excited and nervous about (it’s his dream job and he wants to excel at it). Since getting this new job he’s been a bit stressed and less present in the relationship, he was still putting effort into the relationship but not as much as before.Continue Reading
One of our gorgeous readers, who has called herself "RasberryRush", is feeling empty and sad that her ex has moved on, even though she knows he was not right for her.
Hi Jane
I am baffled by myself, truly baffled.
My ex and I have been on-and-off for about 3 years now - he couldn't give me what I wanted in terms of a future together and I knew we were going in different directions in life.
We stayed intimate here and there (for the 3 years) and we would talk/text frequently every day. I think we fooled ourselves into thinking we were doing the 'friends' thing really well, but we weren't friends.
We were an oddly formed pair who acted like a couple in all but name.
Distance was a factor as we live around 3 hours apart - he's unwilling to move and for family reasons I can't. I feel like we knew we were each other's Mr/Ms Right Now as opposed to being the real deal.
So why then am I so totally crushed and angry that he's been out on a couple of dates with someone?Continue Reading
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