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It’s Time to Call Off the Search

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A woman who has called off the search for Mr. RightIf you feel like you’ve been working so hard to meet the right guy, you’ve tried everything from night clubs to dating clubs to speed dating, well I’ve got some good news for you: It’s time for a break. It’s time to realize that you don’t need a man to define your life!  You don’t need a man to have a world to fit into. In fact, it’s the opposite – your life is exactly that – yours.

I know you’ve heard this before, but it’s time to really get it. As much as we may know in our hearts that we’ve been going down the wrong path, attracting the types of guys that just aren’t able to give us what we’re looking for, we still find ourselves rejecting the guys who are actually healthy and ready for a relationship in favor of the excitement and drama of the roller-coaster ride Mr. Wrong takes us on.

So why don’t we stop this self-destructive behavior?

Well, the truth is that it’s a lot easier to keep doing the same thing over and over again than to stop and take a good hard look at ourselves, and do the work to figure out what’s motivating us to keep repeating these same patterns over and over again.Continue Reading

Everything Changes

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Beautiful flowers on a tree signifying changes.
Whether we like it or not, change happens.

I just revisited my hometown for the first time in over seven years. I haven’t been back since before my children were born, but the memories that came up for me brought it all back as if I had just been there yesterday.

The sights, the sounds, the scents, the feelings, the emotions. The memories of a different time and place – and a very different me.  And a reminder of just how much everything changes.

I hardly recognized the little town where I grew up. It used to be way out there – a little suburban town far away from the big city. But now it’s become its own big city.

With so many new roads and bridges, new huge shopping centers and office buildings, even a new high-rise that’s the first of its kind there. Old houses that I remember have been torn down, and new apartment buildings and condominiums built in their place. And construction still going on everywhere.Continue Reading

How Doing ONE Thing Differently Can Bring LOVE Into Your Life

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A beautiful smiling woman is loving her life.
If you can just do this one thing, you can't help but attract love into your life.

I’ve learned many things since my single days.  Some are things that I regret doing and wish that I had done differently, and some are things that I regret not doing in the first place. 

It’s this second group that leaves your body aching with the painful regret of missed opportunities, of what could have been.

If I could go back and do one thing differently, it would be that I would have chosen consciously to always do what I love doing.  You see, when you love what you are doing, you are loving life.Continue Reading

The Absolute Best Place to Meet Mr. Right

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The stereotypical places to meet men are not always the best. A view of a strip of bars and restaurants.
The stereotypical places to meet men are not necessarily the best.

We've all read articles or heard about the supposedly great places to meet men – places like the gym, the supermarket, the dog park, and of course the age old meeting place, the bar.

In my dating days, if I saw one of these lists with something on there I hadn’t tried yet I immediately made plans to try it the next chance I got.

I remember when I first heard that the grocery store was a great place to meet men.

What did I do?

I headed for the grocery store. During the hours of 7-9 PM. Because that was when they (whoever that particular they authority happened to be at the time) said was the most likely time to meet single men in grocery stores.Continue Reading

Why Won't He Commit? 7 Things You Can Do to Move Things Along

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A beautiful woman on a pier with her boyfriend in the background, upset because he won't commit.
What do I do to make him want what I want?

There’s a very common scenario that seems to happen to all of us at one time or another, and sometimes over and over again.

We end up in a relationship with a guy that has tons of potential, IF he would just commit!

And the dilemma is always - how long to wait it out to see if he truly IS going to come around?  Or are we just wasting our time? Or, what if you've finally had enough, and decide to move on right before he was about to come around?

This is one of the most commonly asked questions because we are such a hopeful group.  The bottom line is that what we’re really asking is how do we know if he’ll ever commit?

When I was doing some soul searching on this subject, I realized that this was my own number one reason for being single as long as I was. I wasted so much time and energy - especially time – waiting. Waiting for a guy to come around. Waiting and waiting for him to commit.Continue Reading

Three Things You Can Do When He’s Getting Emotionally Distant

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A beautiful woman stands behind a man feeling sad because he seems distant.
Is it all in your head or is he getting distant?

Why do we sometimes hold on so tightly to something that isn’t working for us?

To someone that isn’t treating us the way we deserve to be treated? Who isn’t loving us the way we were meant to be loved?

You know the scenario – it starts off with fireworks, an amazing connection; you just can’t get enough of each other. Then suddenly, he’s not calling as much, he’s out with his buddies more than he’s out with you, or you just have some gut feeling that something has changed for him.

He seems distant.

Any time a relationship I was in started taking this kind of turn for the worse I did what so many of us do. I started hanging on tighter.

Yep. Break out the stranglehold.Continue Reading

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