… if I could do it all over again.
1. I would spend less time worrying about how we were ever going to find each other.
I would know when we were both truly ready for each other, we would find each other.
2. I wouldn’t try so hard to change myself to be what he wanted me to be.
I would know I didn’t have to be anything except myself.
3. I wouldn’t hold on so tightly to relationships that didn’t honor or respect who I was inside.
I would know that I deserved better than crumbs and that it was only by refusing to settle for anything less than what I deserved that I would finally get it right.
4. I wouldn’t hold on so tightly to another him that I thought was the best I was going to get.
I would know that no guy, no matter how amazing or wonderful (or whatever he is), is worth losing myself for.
5. I wouldn’t be so scared of being alone.
I would know that it’s in being alone that I learn who I am, what I’m about, and what makes me me.
6. I wouldn’t be so scared that someone else was going to find him first.
I would know that scarcity is a lie that we’re brought up, but it’s not true. There’s always enough of everything if we believe it – even if we’re talking about men.
7. I wouldn’t be so scared that the art of finding Mr. Right was somehow in everyone else but not me. That they had the magic in them but not me.
I would know that everyone has the magic in them just by being alive and that I didn’t ever have to be afraid of missing him.
8. I wouldn’t wonder if I was worth someone looking for me and waiting to find me, too.
I would know that I have worth just because I exist.
9. I wouldn’t think that finding him (and keeping him) was about using some magical formula, or some perfect prescription, or playing games or any other manipulative tactics.
I would know that it’s about being real, honest, and authentic; without the games, the acting, the manipulating and the pretending.
10. I wouldn’t be so worried that it was never going to happen to me because I wasn’t good enough, that I wasn’t deserving enough.
I would know that dreams really do come true, even for me, no matter where I’ve been, what I’ve done or what I’ve been through.
…because that’s the key. It’s not about him, it’s about you. It’s about getting out and doing the things you enjoy, living the life that you were meant to live. And it’s in doing those things that one day, somehow, somewhere, without you even knowing it, that’s when it’s going to happen. Your dream. Your happily after after. The real thing. At exactly the time that you are both ready for each other; and not one moment before.
How about you? What would you do differently? Tell us about it in the comments!