Getting to TRUE Love

Finding your YOU that leads to TWO

You are here: Home / Archives for communication

Help! I've Tried Talking to Him but He Still Does the Same Thing

Leave a Comment

Couple not talking after a fight on the sofa in living room at home
I've tried talking to him about my concerns but in vain

Our letter this week comes from beautiful Maureen. For all her attempts to address her concerns with her relationship, nothing has changed.

Here's what she wrote ...

I have been with this guy for quite some time. At first, we would meet up as often as possible - like twice in a week - but now not so often because we are both busy and I only get to see him once every two weeks.

The major concern is that he never communicates even if it's a good morning or calling in the evening to know how my day was. It seems like a task for him. He rarely initiates conversations unless I do or tells me he loves me unless I do.

He would go for days without texting me or even calling even if it's for a few minutes just checking up on me unless I do myself. Yet when he does,after days several days, he acts like we are okay.

At times he leaves me on read on whatsapp and yet he is online on several occasions.

I have tried talking to him about my concerns and he still does the same thing.Continue Reading

Too Busy for a Relationship but Not Too Busy to String You Along

5 Comments

Nobody is too busy, it is a matter of priorities - handwriting on a napkin with a cup of espresso coffee
He says he's too busy for a relationship because of work.

One of our beautiful readers, signed "In love with love", has a story that so many of us can relate to. The boyfriend that just can't seem to make time for (or commit to) a real relationship.

Read on for the full story:

Hi Jane,

I stumbled across one of your blogs, incidentally, a few weeks ago and have been hooked ever since.

You have a unique way of nailing all the issues with dating and love right on the head - it's to a point where you're reading, you think these blogs are made solely for you and speak to your own experience.

So Kudos for proving that relationship experts DO exist.

Anyhoo, I'd like to gather your thoughts on an issue that I've been dealing with. It's been some time since I've recapped events but I'll try my best to make it sensical.

In laymen's terms, I think I've fallen in love with someone who might love me back, but isn't letting themself. The only real excuse I've gotten is because he's too busy for a relationship because of work.

I don't buy that because I believe we make time for the  things and people we want. And if that's not me, why not just say so?

This would be a much easier pill to swallow if he would say he's just not that into me or doesn't see us working out. That I can understand. But this limbo we've been teetering in for months is mentally debilitating and hindering me from moving on.

Can you please advise?Continue Reading

Am I Crazy to Think He’s With Someone Else?

18 Comments

A beautiful woman looking down sadly, trying to let go and move on.
I feel like he wants to leave me.

Beautiful Lara is wondering if her man is seeing someone else behind her back (her letter has been edited for readability):

Here's her story:

I’ve been with a man for 4 years. We used to laugh, go out together, be intimate. He would communicate.

He used to spoil me. Now he doesn’t.

Now he comes over at 11 PM, and all he wants to is watch movies. He doesn’t text, rarely calls. He used to come over on Friday’s, but now I often don’t see him all weekend.

I’ve never been to his house, I’ve only met 3 of his close friends, and I’ve never been invited to any of his family events.Continue Reading

Latest Tweets

Recent Comments

Calendar

May 2025
M T W T F S S
 1234
567891011
12131415161718
19202122232425
262728293031