Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
It makes no sense to you.
It can’t.
How can the very ones who can’t commit keep on choosing you? No matter how much you’re drawn to them, no matter how many times you keep finding yourself attracted to them, there’s another side to this.
He chooses you.
Why?
Because of the way you love. Because of the hope you give him. Because of exactly who you are.
This man you’re trying so hard to get a commitment out of, to prove why he should pick you, is exactly the man who needs you.Continue Reading
One of our beautiful readers, Charlotte, is at a loss to know what to do about her boyfriend's commitment issues. I know so many of you have similarly faced this in your own relationships, or are going through this now. I've given my response below, but I know she'd love to have your take on her situation as well.
Hi Jane,
Due to your experience in the matter I thought that maybe you can help.
I have been together with my boyfriend for five years. We have had our share of troubles, but are still together. On an everyday basis he is nice to me - giving me massages, taking care for me etc.
However, whenever we talk about the future, he becomes indefinite. He keeps putting off having a family or marrying.Continue Reading
One of our gorgeous new readers, Beverley, tells us her story about her long term boyfriend first wanting to move in together, but then changing his mind and pulling away. She's wondering if he'll ever commit.
Hi Jane,
I have stumbled across your page by chance but is extremely relevant to where I'm at in my relationship at the moment.
I just read "3 Biggest Warning Signs He'll NEVER Commit" and I'm worried. I have been with my boyfriend for coming up on 3 years now. I am 27 and he is 25. I am a little confused as to where to start with my concerns as there are a number of mitigating factors in what has gotten us to where we are (that being nowhere).Continue Reading
How do you stop attracting the wrong guys? One of our beautiful readers, Nicky, is having this problem that so many of us (myself included!) have struggled with at one time or another.
Hi Jane
I don't know where I'm going wrong but I always manage to fall for the wrong guy - help!
I started off in my late teens by falling for guys who either lied or emotionally black mailed me and after learning my lessons on that one I now attract guys who can't commit.
My last relationship of 3 years strung me along believing he wanted marriage and children like me but then when it came to committing to that he then just selfishly dropped me and said that wasn't what he wanted.Continue Reading
Before he can commit to you, he needs you to commit to this …
This.
Just this one thing is going to make all the difference in the world between whether or not he gives you the one thing you’re looking for.Continue Reading
This week, I'm answering a letter from one of our gorgeous readers, who has chosen to call herself "Pieces of Me" (which I've shortened to Pieces). She feels like the guy she's been with for 6 years has only been playing her, with no intention of any real commitment.
Jane, why is it so hard for me to let this guy go? Clearly he has moved on with his life... :((
This has been an on again off again somewhat relationship for the past 6 years. We met on a social dating site and the way he pursued me caught my attention because he seemed confident and consistent.
Soon after we officially met in person we instantly hit it off, but shortly after we became "official" the communication began to dwindle. I would bring it to his attention and because of our work schedules and me having kids it began to make it hard.
He never took me out all we ever did was hang out at his house, he always had an issue with money and he didn't have a car but I understood and really didn't make a big deal out of it, but after a while I began to feel insecure like did he really love me the way he said he did? Was he ashamed to be seen with me in public?Continue Reading
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