Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Keep going. Keep moving. Keep walking. Don’t look back.
You’re going to be okay.
You’re going to get through this.
You’ve got this!
Whatever our mantra happens to be, they all say the same thing.
Let go. Leave it in the past. Don’t keep holding on so tightly to what you should have said or done.
But the problem is that for all our well-intentioned words of inspiration and support, nothing cuts to the heart of how we actually feel.
As in trapped.Continue Reading
You’ve been told so many things.
You’ve been told who to be. You’ve been told what to say. And you’ve been told that it all matters IF you want to find love.
You’ve been told so many stories so that you’d see why someone else knows so much more than you do. You’ve been told to trust, to have faith, to listen to what someone else knows.
After all, you’re single, right? Or worse, you’re in love with an emotionally unavailable man who can’t seem to commit. Or maybe you’re involved with a married man who can’t seem to give you anything more than empty promises.
But whatever your situation, there’s one thing you’ve got in common with everyone else who’ve been told all these things; you’re scared. Underneath the hurt, the anger, the frustration, the pain, you’re afraid it’s never going to happen again.
You’re afraid it’s never going to change.Continue Reading
Beautiful Stella writes to tell us about her burgeoning long distance relationship, and she's wondering if there's anything she can do to move things forward.
Hi Jane,
I love reading all the wonderful and insightful advise you give to women (and men) about love and relationships.
Recently I was on vacation in Europe and met this amazing guy with whom I had an instant connection. After a great week I came back home but we have been talking on the phone every day. Our conversations last anywhere between 1-3 hours.
He asked me to come back to visit and I agreed so there's a possibility of seeing him again but beyond that I'm not sure what we can do to advance our "relationship".Continue Reading
It's a question I've gotten from so many of my coaching clients, I've decided to address it here on the blog.
If all of the men you date have a problem with commitment, does that mean it's actually YOU who has a problem with commitment?
There’s a difference here that I want to point out. You’re here and he’s not. That’s a significant difference because it reveals one very important thing; you’re at least open to having this conversation, however difficult it may be.
Why is that such an important distinction? Because it forms the basis of all our growth in every single one of our relationships!Continue Reading
This week, beautiful Lee writes about her long term partner whose commitment issues are causing her to have some trust issues with him.
I've been exclusively dating my guy for nearly 18 months.
It was only after we'd been going out for 3 months that I found out he had been separated for nearly 18 years, but never divorced. He knows I thought he was divorced and I wouldn't have gone out with him if I'd known he was only separated.
He goes on about how he never said he was divorced, but he said "my wife wanted the divorce," and naturally I thought he meant it had gone ahead.
He said he'd never pursued the divorce because of his daughter - now aged 23 - as he felt bad about leaving when she was very young. But the wife had told him to go, although he realises she thought he'd probably return and be totally subservient.Continue Reading
This week, beautiful Kimberly writes to tell us about her (very) long term relationship with a man who just can't seem to commit to marriage with her.
I've been in a relationship for over 8 years. Well there's been a lot of stuff that has happened between us.
Today we aren't getting along at all. He lives with his mother and has a daughter who had kids. His daughter is 30 and the fathers of these kids will not have anything to do with the kids.
This guy has said he wants to marry me over the years and something always seem to happen to him that he won't marry me.
He acts like all he wants to do is be with his grandchildren and will make no time to build a relationship with us. There's nothing wrong with his daughter that she can't take care of her 2 kids but over the past 1.5 years we fight about this all the time.Continue Reading
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