I remember that feeling oh so well. The fear that would come after reading yet another book, after hearing yet another speaker. There always seemed to be something else I was supposed to be doing, or not doing. Something else I was doing wrong. And that's when it would set in. The fear.
What if I had missed my chance by not doing what I was supposed to be doing? What if it was too late and I had already sealed my fate?
I couldn't shut out the fear. The fear of being alone forever and never finding someone who would love me for me.
Whenever I was alone it would set in and I would just wallow in this big giant lake of doubt, drowning in it. With every new book I was only finding myself growing more and more fearful that I would never be able to figure it out and finally get it right!
I just wasn't getting it at all, and sometimes I felt like I was even going backwards.
Did that mean it was all over for me – or at least in this lifetime?
It was a downward spiral.
So much to focus on, so much to not focus on, so much to try to change, so much programming to try to reverse. It just felt overwhelming.
Once again I was believing that everyone else has it in them but me. Everyone else must be able to do this except me.
And so I felt more alone, more scared, more doubtful and more fearful that I would ever get this right. I was caught in a downward spiral.
Until I read that I just needed to stop being afraid. Completely overwhelmed, I surrendered to God, to the Universe, to whatever it is that's out there and let it be known that I just couldn't do this anymore. I was tired of being afraid.
Then something clicked.
It was like a light switch suddenly being turned on.
And that's when I started to live. I realized that this fear had been such a central part of my life that had been controlling so many of my decisions (and indecisions). Something about recognizing it, acknowledging it, realizing the hold it had on me and finally surrendering to it brought it down to size. It was then on a level that I could see it clearly without letting it rule my life.
I could now acknowledge those fears as they came up, but I was in control now of how much I would allow them to affect me or how much I would believe what they were saying. I could finally look them in the eye and tell them they were wrong.
I knew the truth.
I was lovable, I was beautiful, I was attractive, I was worthy, and I did deserve to be loved. I was finally able to see this for myself, no matter what those nasty voices of fear were whispering in my ear.
And I want to tell you right now, in no uncertain terms, that it's the same for you, my beautiful friend. All of your doubts and fears don't have to control you and your life for even one more moment. It's time to see just how much control you have over those fears. It's time to acknowledge them, accept them for what they are, and then let them go.
They are not you. They don't define who you are.
They are only the manifestation of our culture, the media, the well-meaning people in your life, and your past programming. They can no longer dictate what happens to you.
Living with fear at the root of your reality is no way to live.
I know it and you know it.
It all begins with that same simple word – enough.
Acknowledge, accept, and then let it go. Fear is only as big as we make it in our minds and that's the only place it exists. There is so much more to life and love than this, and there is so much more to come for you.
Don't let those fears get in the way of all that you deserve, all that you already have, and all that is still waiting for you.