You’ve tried them all.
You go from place to place, looking, searching for the one thing that will be your magic answer. You search the world over for the one thing, the one person, the one magical formula that will finally make everything right in your world.
You may not know exactly what it is you need, but you think you might.
You think it’s found in the idea of the perfect man for you, or the idea of the perfect job or career for you, or the perfect location, or the perfect body, or the perfect house, or the perfect family, or whatever your particular perfect thing may be.
Except that you’ve tried so many things already, and nothing lasted for long. The feeling of everything finally being right in the world was temporary – fleeting – until it was no more.
It wasn’t only that feeling you lost, it was the confidence in you being so sure you knew what you needed, the confidence that you knew yourself as well as you thought you did that you knew what was best for you.
But this isn’t the way it is, Beautiful. This isn’t the truth of what happened.
What happened was that you were sold a story, a thread, of what you needed to make you happy, of what you were told would make you happy. We were all told the same story and sold the same bill of goods.
That we had to look outside of ourselves for happiness.
That our happiness, our fulfillment would be found in finding, in getting, in possessing the right address, the right career, the right family, the right status symbol, the right man.
Many of us are still on this path and are waking up slowly but surely to the reality that having what is supposed to make us happy falls short when we actually get it, or thought we had it all only to discover it fell apart around us and now we have nothing left.
The man wasn’t what he was supposed to be, nor the job, nor the status, nor everything else. It all fell flat. It all felt so shallow. It all wasn’t what we expected it to be.
We feel like we’ve been short-changed, and yet really what we were was told what they were told too.
Do this and get that. Do this even better and get that better still.
We did but it sure didn’t turn out the way it was supposed to.
You know why?
Because it doesn’t come from anywhere outside. Miracles don’t just happen. Chance meetings don’t just happen. We – you – make them happen!
All my programs, every step we walk through together with my coaching, it’s all about seeing through to our programming. The more we can’t see that there’s a way out, the more stuck we become.
Of course you’ve grown cynical!
It’s no wonder you can’t believe it could happen for you, that all the good men aren’t already taken, that there’s someone perfect for you still out there!
We’re stuck in our programming.
That’s all it is. When you can see that, it becomes possible.
So how do you see the miracle worker in you? How do you see yourself with all the power in the world right there inside you?
You start by climbing out of the status quo that you’ve been accepting as just the way it is for so long. By breaking the cycle of doing things just because it’s the only way you know.
You create new ways of doing things, and you keep doing them until they become new habits that replace your old ones that you've been programmed with.
You reach out to new places, new people, new experiences, new anything that allows you to get out of the programming that’s held you down and kept you small for so long. That's how you claim your birthright.
Love, happiness, uncomplicated "no drama" living.
You do whatever it takes to see a view of life – of this world – that doesn’t keep selling you on the same story you’ve bought into.
It’s not your fault. It’s what we were all sold on. But that doesn’t mean it’s true or that it’s the way it has to be for you.
Whatever you can do, wherever you can go to see just how much bigger the world is than the version that you see that only supports your programmed version, do that. Go there. Take a walk somewhere you haven’t been before.
When you reach the limit of where your legs can take you, take a bus, a subway, a skytrain, or even a bike – anything that will take you where you can see more than you can see where you are right now.
We all get stuck in this thinking. I know I certainly did. We all start to feel like nothing will ever change.
It doesn’t mean we’re right. It just means we need to do something different. To get out of our stuck place and see that we’re actually a part of something so much bigger than the familiar place we’ve dug ourselves into.
Don’t sabotage yourself before you even try. I know those equally as strongly programmed voices will tell you nothing will change so why even try. But you can’t know until you try.
You can’t see it until you look someplace different than you’ve been looking before. And you won’t believe that any of this can be different for you with all that you’ve already been through before until you’re far enough out of your programming.
If you need support, I’m here for you. I’d be honored to walk this path with you. It’s a familiar one, to me, in more ways than you could know. I still get stuck, I still have doubts, the fear sets in, and I have to be reminded of everything I’ve told you here.
Come be human with me. There’s room for you. And there’s room for all your dreams, all your goals, all your plans, and everything that’s going to come true for you!
Hasn’t it been long enough?
Where ever you’re feeling the most stuck, whatever belief is sounding the strongest, is the one that’s calling you to look there.
You can do this. That you’re here at all is telling you you’re already doing this! Don’t let anyone tell you different or keep you staying where you are. There is so much more to life and love than where you are and where you’ve been!
I want to hear from you! What's holding you back and keeping you stuck? Share your story with us in the comments below so we can help!