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Should I Leave Him? 9 Questions to Ask Yourself

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A woman is looking up at question marks above her head.
It begins with some questions and some really honest answers.

You've been living like this for far too long, and the question keeps popping up in your head: Should I leave him?

You keep thinking things are going to get better, hanging on to those little things that just keep you hanging on.

Until it finally becomes clear that things aren't getting better, he isn't coming around, you're still giving way more than you're getting out of this relationship.

And yet, there are the wonderful things.

The amazing times you have together. Those occasional times when he actually does something romantic.

And when it's good, it's really good.

Unfortunately, there just aren't that many of these really great times, and as much as you try to keep it going, you're wondering if you're really just wasting your time.

Especially as the clock keeps ticking and you're not any closer to that elusive commitment you're looking for from him.

You keep asking yourself, should I stay in or leave this relationship? 

It's the question so many of us have wrestled with at one time or another, and one I hear from so many of my coaching clients - "Should I stay or should I leave?"

Typically followed with "Should I give it a little more time?, and if so, how much?" "Or should I just break up?"

Leaving a relationship is never easy, and deciding when to leave a relationship is one of the most difficult decisions to make.

If you're like most of us, you just want someone to tell you what to do, give you some assurance that you're doing the right thing. But everyone you talk to gives you a different answer until you are completely confused as to what to do.

Well, I have good news for you.

It's really not that complicated.

It begins with asking yourself some questions that require some honest answers. Really honest answers.

The kind that comes from doing some serious soul searching into why you are in a relationship like this in the first place.

So grab a notebook and a cup of your favorite warm drink, put on some beautiful, relaxing music, maybe turn down the lights and light a candle, and get ready to be totally and completely honest with yourself.

Remember, you're the only person who will see your answers to these questions, so there's no point in kidding yourself.

1.) What are you getting out of this relationship that you can't get outside of it?

2.) Can you talk about any of this to him? Will he listen? Will he really hear you?

3.) Do you believe you deserve nothing more than this? If so, why don't you believe you deserve better than this?

4.) If he never changes, and if this is what your relationship is going to look like with him in the future as well as the present (because this is most likely the case), are you OK with this?

5.) Do you think he will truly care if you leave?

6.) Do you feel like you are settling?

7.) Are you getting back as much out of this relationship as you are giving?

8.) Are you in this relationship because of love or because of fear? Do you feel that even as bad as it is, it's still better than being single?

9.) Does he or the relationship bring you to tears often? If so, is he really worth it?

Ultimately, you are the only one who can answer these questions and decide whether or not this relationship is worth it for you to continue to remain in. No matter what anyone else thinks, you are the one that has to be all right with whatever decision you make, and no one can make that decision for you.

If you're asking yourself "Should I leave him?" just make sure that whatever decision you make, whether you decide to stay in the relationship or leave, you are choosing you first. Because that's what really matters.

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