Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Keep going. Keep moving. Keep walking. Don’t look back.
You’re going to be okay.
You’re going to get through this.
You’ve got this!
Whatever our mantra happens to be, they all say the same thing.
Let go. Leave it in the past. Don’t keep holding on so tightly to what you should have said or done.
But the problem is that for all our well-intentioned words of inspiration and support, nothing cuts to the heart of how we actually feel.
As in trapped.Continue Reading
Gorgeous Maria keeps getting pulled back into a relationship, only to have him pull away and get distant again.
Hi Jane, thank you in advance.
I'm trying to figure out why my ex won't let go of me all together.
And why does he act weird/distant when it comes to us actually meeting for dinner or even visiting him out of town where he lives.
As soon as he knows I'm done with his games he leaves me alone for a week or so, then calls. We have fantastic conversations. When we text or call/face time it's fantastic. But when he sees me face to face he gets weird cold feet.Continue Reading
I did it again.
I put my foot in my mouth. In my excitement, my passion, my well-intentioned motive to connect more deeply, I say or do something that makes me feel awkward.
Again.
I should be getting used to this by now, but it’s still an uncomfortable place for me. So I’m learning a new way of dealing with, well, me.
If I allow myself to care so much about what other people are now going to think of me, or what they’re going to say about me, then I’ve given them all the power.
But if instead I recognize that no, this is all me - that I said what I said with all that passion behind it because this, too is the authentic real me - then I keep every bit of my power. And maybe I even gain some.
I’ve been thinking about this lately, because, well, it came up again.Continue Reading
I’ve got just one word for you today: NOW.
You need to hear this and you need to hear it now.
Before another moment goes by. Before another hour, before another day goes by.
I know just how important it is, first hand.Continue Reading
He’s gone or you left. Does it matter?
Not deep down in your heart where it hurts. Even if you were the one who said “enough”, it wasn’t really because you wanted to. It was because you felt you had to.
He couldn’t do it.
You tried everything to make him see, to show him what a mistake he was making if he threw it all away.
But the problem was, he couldn’t. He didn’t have it in him in the end. He may have tried, but we can’t speak for him. What we know is that he simply wasn’t capable.
I know you're heart broken. I know you're feeling down. But let me show you a different perspective here. One that took me years to figure out, and one I wished I’d had when I needed it most.Continue Reading
One of our gorgeous readers, Heather, is having a hard time letting go of a relationship that she knows is not what she wants.
Hi Jane!
I've been following you for a little while. I find your explanations and responses very comforting...so thank you!
I'm going to try to summarize this as best I can.
I met a man almost 3 years ago who changed my world. We were together for almost 2 years with a brief break in the middle. Our issue then and what ended up breaking us up was the issue of having kids.
He's 10 years older than me. He has 3 foster kids and didn't want to have anymore. I wasn't ready to give up on the idea of having kids so we split.
We didn't talk for a little while after the break up but then ended up staying in contact until about a month ago.Continue Reading
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