Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Kindness.
Gentleness.
Compassion.
Empathy.
Actions.
Not shallow words that mean nothing without the behavior to accompany them.
Look around you.
Are these what you experience from your lovers, your boyfriends, your girl friends, your family, all these ones you give so much of your time, your energy, your own kindness and gentleness and compassion and empathy to?Continue Reading
The letter this week comes from beautiful Kimberly, who says she's desperate to save her lonely relationship.
We've been together for 5 1/2 years and he was who I had my first time with, it's one of the few things Im still proud of.
I just turned 25 and he just turned 30.
The changes are heartbreaking: He NEVER used to constantly interrupt me how he does now. And now he's on his phone 98% of every day and through every conversation.
Somewhere along the way he totally switched from jaw-droppingly respectful to now, if I ask one simple question, he'll reply to me in the most condescending/sarcastic tone, the way you would to a dull-minded idiot by repeating step-by-step the whole situation I had a simple yes/no question to.
Ironically, I'm the one who spends every day repeating everything I say to him 4 times because of the phone.
One night I finally snapped and told him I was about to smash it with a hammer no matter the consequences. He also crushes my spirit by micromanaging everything I do, although I know he means well and sincerely has the best intentions.Continue Reading
I’m hearing you tonight.
Another disappointment. One more loss. More hopes dashed. And it feels like nothing has changed, and never will.
Where do you go from here?
How do you get back hope when summoning up any kind of hope at all was already too much to ask?Continue Reading
There's a reason I’m here, doing what I do.
To remind you of what you can’t see from where you are now. To remind you of your power. To remind you of your beauty.
To remind you that the only reason you can’t see what I can see is because you haven’t come to the part yet where you prove yourself wrong.
Because without proof, you can’t believe it. Without proof, it’s the hardest thing to believe what you can’t yet see.
So my message to you today as we go about celebrating the holidays in whatever way you celebrate, is to stop believing what you’ve been believing about yourself every time another holiday season comes around.Continue Reading
This week the letter comes from one of our amazing anonymous readers who I've called "Heidi". She writes in to talk about her insecurities with the man she loves. Sound familiar? We all have them, in one way or another.
Hi Jane.
I'm 23 years old and I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for almost three years now and it's been going really great. He's an amazing guy and has never done anything to betray me, etc.
My problem, though, is my insecurity about this relationship. I know I love him and he loves me back but what if he finds someone prettier or smarter than me?
He's friends with loads of girls, not close to them but he knows them well. What if he starts liking one of them more than he likes me? He's known me for 5 years and I admit it can get boring at times.
Someone else could be more interesting and exciting for him than his girlfriend of almost 3 years now.Continue Reading
What do you do when you come to the end of yet another relationship that didn't work out for you? What do you do with that? Or more precisely, what do you conclude? Do you conclude that there must be something wrong with you?
This is the piece you often hear me talking about on here.
Instead of seeing it as not the right timing for you.
Instead of seeing it as not the right fit for you, either right now or always.
We tend to look at a relationship with someone as that it should work because you’ve put everything you've got into it, or you should be attractive enough, or you should be the perfect match for him.
But it’s never about what it should be. It’s about whether it is, in reality, a good fit for you.Continue Reading
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