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I Don't Know if I'm in a Relationship With Him or Not

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A beautiful woman leans her head against a tree, looking unsure.
I don't even know if I can call this a relationship.

One of our gorgeous readers, Nate, is questioning the relationship she's in.

Here's her story:

I've been in  a relationship with a man for almost 3 months now.

He doesn't text or call, I'm always the one initiating communication. I spoke to him about it and he said that he's not a text or call person, the only person he calls is his grandma.

This guy is a graphic designer and always active online, twitter and Instagram but never checks up on me. When I do, he takes forever to reply to it.

He tried to call after my discussion with him but here's another issue, his call is always very official - like how are you and have a good day.

The only time he said something nice is when we are having sex or making out, those are the times he says he loves me.Continue Reading

Should I Call it Quits or Keep Trying?

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Street sign showing direction for should I stay or should I go.
Should I ask him what is going on, or just move on?

Our letter this week comes from beautiful Gail. She's seeing the signs of the slowly disappearing man, but she's not quite ready to let go and she's wondering if she should keep trying to work it out.

Here's what she wrote:

Hi Jane - I love your blog and have gained much insight from it - but I am still stuck with this particular dating dilemma, which I know is a fairly common one.

I have been online dating with a guy for around 4 months (we live about 7 hours car drive from each other) - I am 52, he is 56.  We hit it off right from the start and he was very romantic, telling me how he was falling for me big time, could imagine us spending our lives together, etc!

I really liked him and felt this might be the lucky charm (after several bad experiences).

He said he was really busy with his business in the run up to the end of the year, but he would make time soon to come and see me.  (Sorry, but I was not going to offer to go and visit him, I do feel that should come from him, first.)

Well, you can probably imagine what has happened.Continue Reading

Should I Reach Out To Him?

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He hasn't called - should I reach out to him?

Today on the blog, I’m featuring a letter that could have been written by so many of you. It’s such a familiar story that just about all of us can relate to.

When we meet someone and exchange numbers and yet we don’t hear from him, we all ask ourselves the same question: Should I reach out to him?

Add on as many more words as you want, go into as many specifics as we all do, but at the end of the day, it’s always the same question: What do I do?

In this case, the letter came from one of our lovely readers, Sophie.

Here's what she wrote:

I met a guy a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers.

The same day we talked for a few hours outside in the car. After that night I never heard from him.Continue Reading

The Truth About "He's Just Not That Into You"

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Calendar showing that he hasn't called.
There's another part to all of this...

When I say you can never be too much or not enough for someone who is truly right for you, when I validate you for being who you are, when I advocate for you and every woman like you to stand in your own beautiful feminine power instead of bending and changing for a man, there’s a reason.

There will always be the easy answer, the simple answer that someone could argue. If he was really that into you, he’d be with you.

And while on the one hand I’ll agree with that statement for the most part, there’s another side to this that creates a fallout that no one ever talks about until it’s happened enough times that you go digging for answers and find your way here.

And that’s when you begin to see yourself in a whole new light. That’s when the answers you just knew had to be there suddenly appear.

Because I’ve been there. And I've seen both sides of this story.Continue Reading

My Boyfriend Barely Ever Calls or Texts

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A woman looks at her phone wondering why her boyfriend hasn't called.
Is it a bad sign he doesn't want to check in with me?

Our beautiful friend, Abby, is going crazy because her boyfriend almost never calls her or texts her, and she's wondering what it means.

Here's her email:

Hi Jane!

First of all, I ADORE your website. Thanks so much for all the incredible advice you give!

So, I would love to get your perspective on this...

I've been dating a man for 3 months now. We are exclusive, and he's absolutely crazy about me when we're together in person. He's super talkative, affectionate, and I know he cares about me.

But, when we aren't together, he barely talks to me.Continue Reading

Should I Call or Text? I Don't Want to Lose Him

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A beautiful woman looks at her phone, worried, wondering if she should call or text him.
I haven't heard from him since Sunday. Should I call or text?

What do you do when you're afraid he's going to go back to his ex? Our letter this week comes from our gorgeous friend Hannah, who is going through exactly that.

Here's her email:

Hello,

I'm desperate for your help and wouldn't normally be so needy but I don't know what to do.

Before I go into detail, here is a little break down of timings etc., as it's all a bit complicated:

2010 - My boyfriend starts dating his ex.

2013 - My boyfriend moves his ex into his house.

2013 - Things start to fizzle out between my boyfriend and his ex. She adores him but he isn't sure and she moves out of his home in November 2014 and they take a break so he can get his head straight and decide what he wants. It's in this same month that he and I start seeing each other.Continue Reading

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