Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
You've always known.
What everyone says don't worry about. What everyone tries to shame you about. What everyone calls you crazy for.
It's actually the opposite, isn't it?
You're the one who's always known what's really going on.
You knew before he left.
You knew before he cheated.
You knew before he checked out.
You knew.Continue Reading
You were never supposed to fit in.
Not the way you thought.
You with your one of a kind way of seeing the world.
You with your own unique essence of being in the world. No, you were never supposed to fit in.
You know why you feel like there must be something wrong with you?
Because everyone's been trying to get you to conform and fit in the way they wanted you to your entire life.
Now imagine you trying to go against the grain and resist that when that's all you've ever had reinforced for you.
Not easy, is it? Continue Reading
I talk to so many women who all want to know what they should do about a particular man who's dragging his feet, who comes and goes but not on any schedule they can count on, who's all but living like a single guy while he's supposed to be in a relationship with them.
Every one of their friends tells them to dump him, but the truth is, until you're ready to dump him, you can't, you won't, and you're going to be miserable if you do.
You already know what you're going to do regardless of what I or anyone else say you should do. So I'm going to tell you to do something else.
Shift the focus from him to you.
Find out everything you can about why you are the way you are and how your personality combined with your environment to make you the way you are.
Find some people or animals or cause or something else outside yourself that desperately needs all that love you have for him, and pour your heart into that. Continue Reading
If this all seems so difficult to you, there's a reason.
It's because what we're essentially doing here is creating what we're looking for. We don't have a model for it. We haven't seen it before. We don't know what it looks like - at least not for ourselves.
We only have what we've been told it's like and what people describe to us it's going to look like when we find it.
The rest comes from us.
We have to get clear enough ourselves on what it is we're looking for so that we'll even be able to recognize it when it's in front of us.
We have to believe it's possible, by believing what we know was possible within ourselves and within people we've only heard stories about how it happened for them.
When you were a little girl, they used to ask you, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
You had so many answers back then.
But no one asks you anymore.
When they stopped asking, you stopped asking. You stopped dreaming. You stopped planning. You stopped hoping. You started looking back instead of forward. You started believing another voice.
Not the one of hope, but the one of the opposite of hope.
Hopelessness.
They convinced you you’d lived your best life already.
That you’re too late.Continue Reading
How many times have you heard about someone just like you doing something you'd love to do but can't imagine how you would actually go about making that real for you?
I hear stories just like this from you all the time. You're too young, too old, not experienced enough, not educated enough, too much of an introvert, too nervous, not financially in a position to, not in a position to for so many other reasons, and when it comes right down to it, you're more than a little scared.
Isn't that what most of us feel? Scared?
Afraid to start something we might fail at? Afraid to have to answer to all those naysayers who said we should just play it safe because it makes them feel so much more comfortable when you're not giving them reason to wonder what might also be possible for them?
Here's where I'm going with this. I talk to women every day about all the things they'd rather be doing than what they're doing right now. Just the other day, I encountered a woman who met an old friend she hadn't seen in long time, and the conversation came around to how she could see her opening her own yoga studio.Continue Reading
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