Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Beautiful Emma wants a committed, exclusive relationship with her boyfriend of almost three months, but he doesn't. Ever been there?
Hi Jane... I love your work.
I know you've talked about these types of men before but I'm hoping you can help me with the following issue:
I've been seeing this guy I met online for, maybe, 2.5 months (not exclusive). We have a great connection.Continue Reading
The subject line was clear: Am I a seat filler? I knew exactly what she meant. Ever had to wonder about that yourself? Well, Rose is wondering that now.
Hi Jane,
I really need your perspective on this one.
So I met this guy about a month ago at a wedding, the first minute we met our eyes locked for a moment, the way he looked and smiled at me felt like I was the only woman in the room.
He later asked for my number which I gave it to him, it was my cousin's wedding so I was very busy making sure everything was going smoothly and as a result I never got a chance to talk to the guy up until the wedding was over.Continue Reading
Beautiful Allie shares her story of waiting endlessly for a commitment - will he ever be ready?
I am going to be 32 the end of this year.
I have been with a man for the last 9 years. We dated when we were younger, in between friends with benefits, and more recently started dating (both of us have no children and have never been married.)
My question is, he is unable to define what we are at all, completely accustomed to seeing me out of pure convenience when he can pencil me into his schedule and is okay with seeing me 1 to 2 times a week (literally.) Maybe a dinner after work, breakfast and then I'm gone by 11:00 the next morning.
We have never spent two days together or had a weekend together.
We have had multiple discussions about commitment and things improve but then 4 months later go back to the same old cycle. It's almost as if he wants his life separate from mine; his time is his and he's very set in his ways.Continue Reading
One of our gorgeous readers, Geena, writes to tell us about her boyfriend of 4 months who's pulling away and still doesn't consider what they have to be a relationship!
Hi Jane,
I have been dating a guy for over 4 months. I felt immediately connected to and comfortable with him, which is unusual for me, as I'm shy. In the beginning he gave me a lot of attention via text and phone calls when he was away for work.
He is out of town for work all week and is only home on weekends. He has his kids every other weekend, so that has left us with only 2 weekends a month to see each other.
For the first few months we got together every weekend we could, but only for one night, not the entire weekend.
He's been very open with me about himself.
He has made himself vulnerable by telling me about insecurities he has and things that happened to him in past relationships and in his childhood. He's extremely affectionate and appreciative when we are together. He truly makes me feel like I am the only woman on earth when we are together.
About 6 weeks ago I asked him if he felt we had the healthy and mature relationship he had told me he wanted in the beginning and wanted he kids to see. (I haven't met his kids yet, and completely understand his feelings about not introducing them to a woman until he is in a relationship with her).Continue Reading
One of our gorgeous readers, who has called herself "A", has been dating a guy for a while, and now thinks he's dating other women. He says these other women are just friends, but she's not sure what to do next.
Hi Jane! I am so glad I have found you.
I find this website very helpful and I think for most of us, its a relief, because from my experience I get really confused and that inner voice inside of me telling me "I don't think this is going to end well".
Well here is my question: from a guy's point of view what's the idea of dating?
Because I have been dating a really nice guy for a month now, he is 3 years older than me (I am 22), although age doesn't really matter and for once I thought, wow I think this is the one. This guy seems just right, with the way he treats you, takes you out, worries about you, talks to you everyday, I feel great every time I am with him and I think it's the same feeling from his part, anyway its the whole fairy tale.
Everything it's perfect.
Suddenly just out of the blue, I noticed on the social network that he is also dating other girls. Continue Reading
A letter from our beautiful friend, Vicki, who has fallen for a guy who seems to be battling commitment phobia (sound familiar?).
Hi Jane,
I've been following your website for several months, and amazed by your laser focus insights. So, now its my turn to reach out to you.
I've been dating him for three months.
He's a fascinating man, we can talk for hours and he compared us to Plato's Symposium - split souls who have found each others missing half. He says we're similar in many ways. He owns a large business and has a packed schedule. I was very busy the first month, so I only accepted a few of his date requests.
After a month and four dates, I told him I was used to long term committed relationships, didn't like a casual dating, but was seeing several guys (no sex) until something clicked.
He said it was too early for a commitment, he likes me "more each time", and lets see where it goes. We started seeing each other on weekends (would stay at his home) and one weekday night.
Every Tuesday, he would attend the opera (corporate box seats for four), but never invited me.Continue Reading
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