Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
You feel so much. You care so much. You love him so much.
You want to tell him how you feel. You think that’s all he needs to come around.
“I just need to tell him”, you think. “I just need to put it out there so that he’ll know for sure.”
So you think about it. You ask your friends what they think. Because after all, you don’t know what to think.Continue Reading
It's a question I've gotten from so many of my coaching clients, I've decided to address it here on the blog.
If all of the men you date have a problem with commitment, does that mean it's actually YOU who has a problem with commitment?
There’s a difference here that I want to point out. You’re here and he’s not. That’s a significant difference because it reveals one very important thing; you’re at least open to having this conversation, however difficult it may be.
Why is that such an important distinction? Because it forms the basis of all our growth in every single one of our relationships!Continue Reading
This week, beautiful Lee writes about her long term partner whose commitment issues are causing her to have some trust issues with him.
I've been exclusively dating my guy for nearly 18 months.
It was only after we'd been going out for 3 months that I found out he had been separated for nearly 18 years, but never divorced. He knows I thought he was divorced and I wouldn't have gone out with him if I'd known he was only separated.
He goes on about how he never said he was divorced, but he said "my wife wanted the divorce," and naturally I thought he meant it had gone ahead.
He said he'd never pursued the divorce because of his daughter - now aged 23 - as he felt bad about leaving when she was very young. But the wife had told him to go, although he realises she thought he'd probably return and be totally subservient.Continue Reading
This week, beautiful Kimberly writes to tell us about her (very) long term relationship with a man who just can't seem to commit to marriage with her.
I've been in a relationship for over 8 years. Well there's been a lot of stuff that has happened between us.
Today we aren't getting along at all. He lives with his mother and has a daughter who had kids. His daughter is 30 and the fathers of these kids will not have anything to do with the kids.
This guy has said he wants to marry me over the years and something always seem to happen to him that he won't marry me.
He acts like all he wants to do is be with his grandchildren and will make no time to build a relationship with us. There's nothing wrong with his daughter that she can't take care of her 2 kids but over the past 1.5 years we fight about this all the time.Continue Reading
There’s a question you have to ask yourself before you stay one more day in a relationship waiting for a man who isn’t committing to you.
I know why you’re waiting. I know you see enough good in him, enough potential in him to make him worth the wait.
But you’re not doing yourself any favors and wasting a whole lot of your life and time right now if you can’t answer this with anything but a definitive “yes”.
If he NEVER changes, do you still want him?Continue Reading
Gorgeous Alison writes to us about her long term relationship with a man who can't seem to give her the commitment she wants. She wants the whole package, including the wedding.
Hi Jane
I am 51, 52 in January and I have been with my partner/boyfriend for 4 years. I was married for 5 years, before that my husband and I dated for 6 years before we tied the knot.
He mentally abused me and cheated on me with a much younger woman, which left me extremely insecure in every relationship since then. I have little or no self-esteem and since my divorce 20 years, I have been insecure and have had many failed relationships.Continue Reading
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