When your view of yourself is limited to the words you heard growing up as a child from people who had so many of their own issues, because they didn't know how to love themselves let alone love you, their words become your own.
You don't see yourself as lovable, beautiful, spirited, passionate, confident.
You see yourself as flawed, unlovable, clumsy, messy, stubborn, lazy or whatever other words were thrown at you.
As adults, when we don't understand these underlying roots of our assumed identities, we attract people who are familiar to us. People who remind us of our parents, who have a similar view of us as we're used to.
As much as we can hardly bear to hear those words spoken or implied again, it's the only thing we know.
That's why separating those early roots from our reality today is such an important part of creating healthy relationships. We have to first be attracted to healthy people before we can form healthy relationships!
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