Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Remember last January? 2020 was supposed to be your year.
The year that would be different.
The year that was supposed to give way to your dreams, your plans.
It was supposed to be the year you met him, or the year you finally left him, or the year you went back to school, the year you got that promotion, the year you quit your job, the year you stood up to him, the year you stopped letting what everyone thinks of you control so much of your life.Continue Reading
Wherever the old year finds you tonight, wherever the new year finds you tomorrow, promise me you'll remember one thing.
You have nothing to prove.
NOTHING.
Not to anyone, and especially not to the ones you think you do.
The ones who want you will want you.
The ones who like you will like you.
And the ones who love you will absolutely love you - just the way you are!
Your work is only to learn how to tell the difference so that you never, EVER have to go through any more heartbreak like you've already been through. Because it's been enough already.
We're not talking about a few minor tweaks, we're talking about the essence of you!
Never forget that part, Beautiful.Continue Reading
Life is messy.
Relationships aren't fantasies.
Who you are and who he is are products of years of programming - mostly the subconsious kind neither one of you are even aware of.
Do yourself a huge favor right now (before you're in over your head) and choose someone who's on the same page as you. Someone who understands real vs. perfect and chooses real. I can't stress this point strongly enough; you only want to be with someone who you don't have to be anything but yourself around.
It's hard enough to make a relationship last for the long term in the very best of circumstances!Continue Reading
I had my first panic attack when I was 18.
It was Thanksgiving weekend and I was the passenger in a car of girls driving back from my girlfriend’s family home in Northern California on the 5 Freeway, along with everyone else headed back to SoCal post holiday.
I was living in Southern California at the time, attending Biola University, on a PK (Pastor’s kid) scholarship. My own family celebrated our Canadian Thanksgiving a month earlier, so my friend had included me in her family plans.
The girl in the backseat who was carpooling with us – she was a childhood friend of my new friend and lived around the corner from her although she went to a different SoCal university, she picked up on who I was immediately.Continue Reading
Remember that feeling you get when you’ve just read something so inspirational, when you’ve just had a great coaching session, when you’ve just had that epiphany of sorts and you’re so clear about who you are, what you have to offer and what you bring?
NOTHING can dull that shine you’re feeling.
Or at least, nothing until you step out into the world and see you’re not the only one who’s got that shine, it’s everywhere.
There is nothing quite like the comparing yourself to others to dull your own shine.
It’s deflating.
Suddenly, all those feelings you had seemed like hype.
You’re back to questioning, doubting, buying into someone else’s programming that all the good ones are taken – or at least the ones who are capable of a commitment.Continue Reading
You’ve been told so many things.
You’ve been told who to be. You’ve been told what to say. And you’ve been told that it all matters IF you want to find love.
You’ve been told so many stories so that you’d see why someone else knows so much more than you do. You’ve been told to trust, to have faith, to listen to what someone else knows.
After all, you’re single, right? Or worse, you’re in love with an emotionally unavailable man who can’t seem to commit. Or maybe you’re involved with a married man who can’t seem to give you anything more than empty promises.
But whatever your situation, there’s one thing you’ve got in common with everyone else who’ve been told all these things; you’re scared. Underneath the hurt, the anger, the frustration, the pain, you’re afraid it’s never going to happen again.
You’re afraid it’s never going to change.Continue Reading
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