Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
The Relationships category contains posts regarding the stage after dating, in which you are generally in an exclusive monogamous relationship. The Relationships category includes posts on such topics as meeting the family, commitment, is he the right one for you?, etc.
Beautiful Jillian is scared, and she needs our help.
Here's her email. It's short and to the point, but it tells the story I hear over and over again, from women who are in a place we've all been too often:
Jane,
Truly, I love him. I do. And I just can't let him go.
But I don’t know what to do.
Not too long ago things were wonderful, but now he seems busy all the time. I call him, text him - nothing is working.
I’m scared it's over - please help!
-JillianContinue Reading
Our beautiful friend Julie is going through an age old problem so many of us have encountered before; the guy who wants all the "benefits" but doesn't want the relationship!
Hi there, I am not a younger lady, I'm a mature 56 year old and never needed an answer to a personal matter before!
I have been friends with a man for 3 years now and nothing but friends, going for drinks and a meal, to a meal at his. No hugs or a peck goodbye until about 2 months ago we became friends with benefits!
We have always texted mostly daily throughout the 3 years, mostly him first.
I started to have feelings 18 months ago but never told him. Since the friends with benefits started, my feelings have become stronger and I couldn't hide it from him! He likes me very much and we really get on but he doesn't want anything more, like a relationship!
I have backed off and he's still trying me, asking what I'm doing or what have I done and have a nice day but I haven’t replied!Continue Reading
I don’t want to just give you more of what hasn’t and still isn’t working for you.
I want this to be what finally breaks through to you in a way that I once needed something to break through for me.
Because even though I got out of it (like you will), it wasn't the way I wanted it to go at all. I would go on to repeat the same pattern over and over again for years.
Why?
Because just like you, I was looking for someone to commit to me, but I was going about it all the wrong way.
Listening subconsciously to all those cultural messages that I couldn’t have seen at the time because I was too immersed in it, I didn't choose the ones who were actually ready for a commitment and actively looking for one; I picked the guy who wasn’t ready or at his very best, was confused about exactly what it was he wanted! The guy who I would have to make WANT to commit to me.
And then I put it all on myself to somehow defy his entire history to be the first woman in the world to finally make that happen. Sound familiar?Continue Reading
This week our beautiful friend Jo finds herself falling apart after her boyfriend of one year told her he wants some "space". She's wondering if there's any hope left at all.
Hi Jane,
My story is not really complicated, but it might be different than usual.
I moved to States from Europe around mid-September last year.
I was bored, didn’t have friends yet, so I went out on a date with guy met online. To be honest first date was not great. He had too much wine and started touching me which I don’t like on a first date with the guy that I just met. I was even so stupid that I let him take me home. We kissed, but I didn’t like it.
But that's how I actually met my boyfriend.
I gave him a second chance after first date, we spoke about what we want, he apologized more than once.Continue Reading
The letter this week comes from beautiful Kimberly, who says she's desperate to save her lonely relationship.
We've been together for 5 1/2 years and he was who I had my first time with, it's one of the few things Im still proud of.
I just turned 25 and he just turned 30.
The changes are heartbreaking: He NEVER used to constantly interrupt me how he does now. And now he's on his phone 98% of every day and through every conversation.
Somewhere along the way he totally switched from jaw-droppingly respectful to now, if I ask one simple question, he'll reply to me in the most condescending/sarcastic tone, the way you would to a dull-minded idiot by repeating step-by-step the whole situation I had a simple yes/no question to.
Ironically, I'm the one who spends every day repeating everything I say to him 4 times because of the phone.
One night I finally snapped and told him I was about to smash it with a hammer no matter the consequences. He also crushes my spirit by micromanaging everything I do, although I know he means well and sincerely has the best intentions.Continue Reading
This week, our letter comes from one of our beautiful sisters who has asked to remain anonymous. I've called her Scarlet and her story is one of constant betrayal.
Hello!
I have been reading a few posts and I’mjust anxious to hear what you think about my situation.
I met this guy 2 years ago and we really clicked.
We hit it off from the beginning and I got super close to his family and everything was perfect. I would say we’re both very jealous people and had a few bumps in the road.
No cheating, just simple things - if a guy contacted me or a girl contacted him, things got eerie.
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