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He ghosted me after I said I cared about him!

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A beautiful woman looks at her phone wondering why he suddenly disappeared.
Was it a mistake to let him know how I feel?

Our letter today comes from Tazz, who had some amazing sex with a man she met online and thought all was going great, until she made the "mistake" of telling him she cared about him and didn't want to see him hurt again.

Her Story:

I met a man online, met him a few times, had amazing sex with him, but after I told him I don't want to see him hurt again..as he is going through a divorce and trying to heal on the inside ... said he could take care of himself wanted to break from me for a bit and ghosted me.

He texted me last night he had a good day, went out on a date and missed me ... he is an amazing man and I messed up by telling him I worry about him...

I can't lose him but I'm not happy with his ghosting me either what should I do to bring him back???Continue Reading

Why You Can't Wait Anymore

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Rear view of a woman holding the curtains open to look out of a large light window at home.
Don't be her.

You've been waiting for someone your whole life, haven't you?

Whether it was your mom to love you, your dad to be proud of you, or your teachers to like you, your friends to include you, your boyfriends to never leave you, you've been waiting for someone to do something you wanted them to do your entire life.

To love you.

To want you.

To hold you.

To be with you.

To choose you.

To commit to you.

To never, ever leave you.

Except that never worked out the way it was supposed to.Continue Reading

The first question you need to ask yourself about your guy who won’t commit

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A woman is upset after her boyfriend became emotionally distant and pulled away.
It may be the most important question you ever ask yourself.

I met her on our first coaching session. She desperately wanted to know what she needed to do to keep things moving forward with her guy. She had already decided he was the one for her.

Everything lined up.

He was tall, attractive, smart, funny and successful. He was the perfect complement to her own successful career. He completed the picture for her.

She came to me wanting to make sure she didn’t mess up. This was her guy and she was ready for him to commit to her.Continue Reading

Should I Wait Until He's Ready to Commit Again?

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A beautiful woman sits on a couch away from her boyfriend, wondering if she can live with this.
I am so shocked. I am devastated. I am heartbroken.

This week, our email comes from gorgeous Laurene, who recently got engaged, bought a house and moved in with her fiancé. The problem is, now he's feels like he's not ready and doesn't know if he still wants to get married.

Here's her story:

Hello Jane,

I have been with my boyfriend for one year before we got engaged. Prior to that, we have been very good friends for a couple of years. Our first year was full of bliss and romance. We have our own world and I am confident that he is the one for me.

After he popped the question, we bought our own house and have chosen our wedding date, sent our save the dates to family and friends, and paid off almost half of our wedding suppliers.

Slowly, the honeymoon phase faded away.

I would always feel unappreciated and unloved. He is always preoccupied with a lot of things. There were so many fights and arguments. However, I would always find ourselves going back to our "happy bubble" after every big fight (that would always leave us emotionally drained.)Continue Reading

After One Wonderful Year, He Suddenly Changed

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A beautiful woman is feeling sad and broken hearted about her relationship.
Why did he act so loving only to break up with me?

Our letter this week comes from Abi, who had a feeling something was off and went on to find out she was right. Sound familiar? I have a feeling most of you can relate.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane, I’ve recently gone through a breakup. He was my first ever boyfriend and the first time I’ve ever felt loved. We were dating for almost a year until he suddenly changed - as if a switch just turned in his head.

This happened the day they announced lockdown in England and I went through six weeks of no communication from him unless I instigated the conversation. As the weeks went on his behaviour started to change which started to hurt me more and made me think as to why he was doing this.

I had an inkling that he was going to break up with me but I thought I was just being paranoid.Continue Reading

Is He Just "Not Ready"?

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A beautiful woman is holding her head in her hands wondering if her boyfriend who has commitment issues is just playing games or if he wants a committed relationship.
Maybe I just need to move on.

Our letter this week comes from, Vicki, who's wondering if the man she feels a special connection with in their on-again, off-again relationship, will ever be ready for a real, committed relationship.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

I love your programs and I am really relating to some of the stuff you say. I particularly relate to Sue's letter.

I have had an on/off relationship with a guy for just over 15 months.

I am 51 and have sorted my life out, he is 53 and hasn't.

He has not sorted out all the baggage from his marriage - i.e. not divorced, just now selling the home because he is having financial trouble.

The trouble comes from being depressed or bi-polar or chronic fatigue that led to a truck load of self-esteem issues and to top it off he has 2 young girls (4 and 10) as well as 2 older boys.

So his life is hard.Continue Reading

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