Getting to TRUE Love

Finding your YOU that leads to TWO

How Do I Get Him To Chase Me?

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A woman is dating online looking at her laptop wondering how to get him to chase her.
Do I still keep talking to him or move on?

Our beautiful friend, Cyndi, has been dating a guy who seems to be a bit "hot and cold". Right when she feels like there's a connection, he suddenly disappears on her for days at a time.

Her Story:

Hi Jane,

I am a 48 year old woman, and currently in the middle of a divorce, which luckily is very amicable.

I have been separated for almost four years. During the last four years I have dated and been in relationships with it seems like the same kind of man - either unavailable or still in love with their ex's - so as you can see they haven't been successful.

Even though I learned a new lesson with each man, I am still  confused as to how I should be acting especially in the early stages.

Which leads me to my question.

I have been emailing, texting and talking with a man I met on an online site. At first I would hear from him daily, then he would disappear for a few days, then come back, with an explanation of being really busy, and then disappear again.Continue Reading

She's You

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fantasy. woman in enigmatic meadow over cloudy sky
She has an important message for you...

She slowly comes into view.

Happy. Content. Peaceful.

You’ve been through it all. And now you’re there. He’s there with you. The one you thought you missed.

You didn’t.

The one you thought you’d never find.

You did.

The one you never dared to believe could find you.

And of course he found you.

How could he not?

All those things you thought were taking you away from all chances of ever finding him. They’re how he found you!Continue Reading

Why Do I Keep Getting Dumped?

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A beautiful woman is upset because she keeps getting dumped.
Why do men treat me like a testing station?

Oh, the pain of getting dumped!

Just about all of us have been there before, some of us quite often. Our beautiful friend Tony has just gone through this (again), and is wondering why she keeps getting dumped for other women.

Here's what she wrote:

Wow, I honestly never pictured myself writing to you especially after I got my boyfriend, who is now my ex as of yesterday.

So here it goes...

I don't know how to explain how I feel. I am caught between two emotions: hurt and relief.Continue Reading

The Trail We Leave

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Don't let them define who you are.
Don't let them define who you are.

There's a trail of messages behind you.

Too emotional. Too sensitive. Too heavy. Too deep.

Too this. Too that.

Too much is what you hear.

Not enough is what you feel.

I know this, because this is what I felt, too. We all do, they're different for each one of us, but they're there.Continue Reading

Will He Ever Be Capable of Committing to Marriage?

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Will he ever be capable of making a real commitment?
Will he ever be capable of making a real commitment?

Our gorgeous friend, Anita, has written in to tell us about her boyfriend of 4-1/2 years who just doesn't seem to be able to commit to marriage.

Here's her email:

Dear Jane,

I left my live in boyfriend 11 months ago because he seemed to have no plans to ever marry me.

He also refused to communicate at all, by that I mean if I tried to talk to him about anything regarding my feelings or our relationship (which I did very seldom) he would completely ignore me & refuse to answer me, look at me or even acknowledge my presence at all.

This was ALWAYS the response no matter how loving I was he refused to speak or even tell me if we could discuss the issue another time.Continue Reading

The Only Thing She Has that You Don’t

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It requires only one thing of you.
It requires only one thing of you.

We all know her.

She’s the one who can be herself so effortlessly. The one who says and does what she wants so unapologetically. The one who always seems to get what she wants.

She’s the one we’re secretly so jealous of. She moves about a room with ease, she’s never without a date, and unlike you, she’s not worried about who is or isn’t calling or texting or overthinking everything trying to figure out what her next move should be.

Sound familiar?

She was to me, too.

If only I was more like her, you think. If only I could do relationships and dating as easily as she seems to.Continue Reading

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