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Your Worst Fear

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Rear view pensive thoughtful woman sitting on sofa alone, lost in thoughts, upset female having psychological problem, heartbreak, thinking about being alone
Here's why it's not going to happen.

We have to talk about your worst fear. I know you've got many, but this one stands out because it's the one that's hurting you the most.

There's too many of us here hanging onto a guy who's already missed all your checkboxes only because you're afraid you'll never meet anyone else as good as him.

This is the absolute worst reason to put up with what you're putting up with right now!

See, there aren't all these people walking around on this planet right now and no one who could possibly be someone for you.

This is one of the biggest lies we've ever been programmed with; that you have to ignore how badly someone is treating you, that you have to minimize and excuse away all those behaviors that you used to say you'd never tolerate, just to avoid being alone.

No, you're not going to be alone forever!Continue Reading

Should I Wait Until He's Ready to Commit Again?

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A beautiful woman sits on a couch away from her boyfriend, wondering if she can live with this.
I am so shocked. I am devastated. I am heartbroken.

This week, our email comes from gorgeous Laurene, who recently got engaged, bought a house and moved in with her fiancé. The problem is, now he's feels like he's not ready and doesn't know if he still wants to get married.

Here's her story:

Hello Jane,

I have been with my boyfriend for one year before we got engaged. Prior to that, we have been very good friends for a couple of years. Our first year was full of bliss and romance. We have our own world and I am confident that he is the one for me.

After he popped the question, we bought our own house and have chosen our wedding date, sent our save the dates to family and friends, and paid off almost half of our wedding suppliers.

Slowly, the honeymoon phase faded away.

I would always feel unappreciated and unloved. He is always preoccupied with a lot of things. There were so many fights and arguments. However, I would always find ourselves going back to our "happy bubble" after every big fight (that would always leave us emotionally drained.)Continue Reading

The Reason He Says "I Don't Know"

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Woman and man sitting on a curb breaking up, man with his head in his hands
Is it just an excuse?

He can’t tell you what he doesn’t know.

His words haunt us.

"I don’t know."

"I’m not sure why."

"I wish I could."

"I don’t mean to hurt you."

We’ve heard them all before.

The reality - the stark, harsh, cold reality - is that he can’t give you more of an answer to the questions you’re asking him because he really doesn’t know.

Yes, you and I would know.Continue Reading

I haven't heard from him in 3 days. What do I do?

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An anxious woman lying in bed is looking at her phone wondering why she hasn't heard from him in days.
I don't want to risk losing him forever.

Our letter this week comes from Danni, who wrote to me asking what she should do about her new guy. She hasn't heard from him in 3 days and doesn't know what to do.

Here's what she said:

Hi Jane,

We were good, and then I noticed him not saying I miss you suddenly, and now its been three days since I've heard from him.

What do I do?

Do I test his love and not reach out to him and risk losing him forever?

Help!

- DanniContinue Reading

What We All Need to Thrive

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A group of smiling men and women being friendly and supportive of each other.
This is what we all really need.

There’s a word that keeps coming up.

On my calls. In my inbox. In the heartbreaking comments I read from you here on the blog and on social media.

I hear it when you tell me things like:

No one sees like you.

No one hears like you.

No one thinks like you.

No one feels like you.

You see what everyone else says to just ignore. Because you can’t ignore it!

You hear what everyone says is just you picking up on something that isn’t there. It doesn’t go away.Continue Reading

I Don't Understand How He Could Walk Away From This

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A beautiful woman leans her head against the wall, sad about her breakup.
I can't help but wonder if he'll come back.

Gorgeous Wanda had a great relationship with amazing chemistry and a strong emotional connection, but now he's saying he can't commit and doesn't want a relationship. She's trying to understand what happened.

Here's what she wrote:

Hi Jane,

Thank you for providing all your great content - your articles have been so helpful. I think my story is similar to many that you have shared, but I'm hoping you can be helpful with this situation.

Here's my story: I was dating a man, and the first 2 months were perfect... honestly maybe too perfect.

He was consistently making an effort and told me how much he liked me. We had instant chemistry and a really strong emotional connection. I truly think we both thought we were a good match in terms of personality, values, chemistry, etc.

At ~2 months in, he was honest about his concerns that he wouldn't be able to commit/offer enough to a relationship at that time. Long story short, we decided to keep dating anyway, both with the hope that things would get better.Continue Reading

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