Getting to TRUE Love

Finding your YOU that leads to TWO

  • Categories
    • Relationships
    • Dating
    • Finding Love
    • Single Life
    • Inspiration
  • Programs
  • Work With Me
  • Contact Me
  • About

Wondering why this seems so hard? Here's your reason.

2 Comments

slender long-haired woman wearing white summer dress while walking on a green meadow towards a bright and sunny horizon.
This is how you right this wrong.

If this all seems so difficult to you, there's a reason.

It's because what we're essentially doing here is creating what we're looking for. We don't have a model for it. We haven't seen it before. We don't know what it looks like - at least not for ourselves.

We only have what we've been told it's like and what people describe to us it's going to look like when we find it.

The rest comes from us.

We have to get clear enough ourselves on what it is we're looking for so that we'll even be able to recognize it when it's in front of us.

We have to believe it's possible, by believing what we know was possible within ourselves and within people we've only heard stories about how it happened for them.

If we don't have faith, if we find it so hard to believe because all our own personal evidence is to the contrary, it's going to be especially hard to overcome our doubts and cyncism to believe someone who embodies what we're looking for could even exist.

And if we believe all the bad news and disheartening statistics out there, we're going to have an especially hard time seeing the possibility of it being any different than the harsh statistics for us.

Add to that all the programming we've been fed, all the fearful marketing that's been leveraged at us, and you can see why this begins to feel like a monumental task.

It's not, though.

It only feels like it is when we're just starting out like this, just realizing what we can do - that we actually have some power of our own - when we've been so used to believing these things just happen to us - or they don't.

It starts with you. And yes, you're up for it.

Someone hurt you so much they made you cynical. Someone told you so many lies, they took away your natural ability to trust anyone ever again. No one had the right to do this to you, but they did it anyway.

You know how you right this wrong? You dare to dream again. You dare to trust again. You dare to believe in yourself again. You take back your power you unwittingly gave to them, and you give it back to yourself.

You start by allowing yourself to be curious of what might be different if you could dream a little dream of your own, if you could trust again one day because someone proved himself worthy of your trust, and if you could summon the courage to believe in yourself long enough to see what could be different for you, too.

You've taken so many chances on everyone else, isn't it time you took a chance on you?

Ready to get curious? Share your dream with us here in the comments.

Want to learn more about bringing him in closer (instead of him pulling away)?  Join our mailing list by clicking the button below, and I'll send you my complimentary video and E-book "4 Proven Ways to Make Him ADORE You (Like He's Never Adored Anyone Before!)"

Get Me Started!

Filed Under: Inspiration Tagged With: be true to yourself, confident, know what you don't want, Know what you want, know yourself, living your life, what to look for in a guy, Your Dreams, Your You

Comments

  1. Armando says

    November 19, 2019 at 6:51 am

    This describes a part of what has been hard for me. Going on 3 months being single again and I feel myself giving back the love I gave away to someone who wasn't emotionally available. I missed all the subtle remarks made to me. It became more clear during our breakup when he said to me yet again, "You deserve better and for someone who can reciprocate the love you give." I ignore it before (it felt like a compliment more than unconscious truth) because I wanted this person to be my forever after.
    I'm still working on the [Beautiful, Confident, Radiant YOU!] by yours truly, I discovered I really do have the choice to pick. I see all my qualities and inner/outer beauty(handsomeness) I do have many and I do mean many new eligible guys coming my way now that I am working on myself. In times it still feels hard because many of these guys aren't looking for what I'm looking for or maybe its me just finally noticing the yellow/red flags. It sometimes worries me that I'll be wanting to repeat the same old patterns in fear that I'll overlook something in one of these guys. I don't know if its expectations that I'm setting that are too high and wanting everything to be perfect or just fears of wasting my time again. It still feels a little hard. Based on this article, maybe I need to continue to pour love back into me a little bit longer? Is it because I'm still second guessing my worth and wanting to fill it in with the next guy who marks off more than a couple items on my checklist?
    I heard on the radio the other day about a girl waiting 3 months to accept a guy's proposal to make them boyfriend/girlfriend official. If a guy really does want you, would he try with this much effort to show he really values your worth?

    Thank you Jane

    Reply
    • Jane says

      November 21, 2019 at 9:54 pm

      He would, Armando. And not in a flashy way, but in a way that you could tell it was real. Such telling words. Never stay one a moment longer when someone you're with says you're worth better than them! They know even when we don't want to. And yes, this isn't overnight stuff. We have to unlearn what took years to learn by giving to ourselves what we never got, by realizing we're even worth that, and by embracing all those things we think made us too much, not enough or unloveable in the past. It's not wrong you! Only the wrong ones for you!

      Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

SUBSCRIBE TO OUR MAILING LIST AND I’LL SEND YOU THIS GIFT!

Make Him Adore You Send me the video!

Programs

About Jane Garapick

Hi, I'm Jane Garapick. I'm here to provide inspiration, support and empowerment on the journey to true love. I know what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. And I know for a fact, that your dreams can still come true! Read more...
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • RSS
  • Twitter
  • YouTube

Join Me On Facebook!

Getting to True Love

Popular Posts

A beautiful woman is upset because of the way her boyfriend treats her as he watches TV.

Why He Treats You the Way He Does

A beautiful woman looks at her phone wondering why he hasn't called.

The REAL Reason He Hasn’t Called

Green freeway sign with Commitment written on it.

7 Things I've Learned About Men Who Are Afraid Of Commitment

A beautiful woman is being hugged

Will He Ever Want a Committed Relationship? 3 Signs He Might

A man telling a woman he just wants to be friends. They are standing in a park on a path, out of focus, with the camera looking through branches.

He Just Wants To Be Friends

Image of a man who looks like a player showing signs he's not into you.

14 Warning Signs That He’s Not That in to You

You're the one who really has tried everything to get him to come around and fully commit. You're the one who's given him more than enough time to come around and finally make the commitment . A beautiful woman is upset that her boyfriend won't give her the commitment she wants.

The Worst Thing You Can Do When He Won't Commit

Attractive young woman awaits a phone call. wondering why he hasn't called.

The Worst Thing You Can Do When He Hasn't Called

If you've let him know that you expect the same level of commitment from him that you've given him, and he can't give you the commitment that you're looking for, then there’s only one thing for you to do. A clock is showing that it's time to move on.

Your Best Response When You're Not Getting the Commitment You Want

A beautiful woman is looking at her ex boyfriend with his new girlfriend, wondering why he wouldn't commit to her.

Why He'll Commit to Her, But Not to You

As Seen On…

Latest Tweets

Tweets by @JaneGarapick

Recent Comments

  • Emma Verhoog on The Difference Between Giving Up Too Soon and Giving Up Too Much
  • Jin on Three Things You Can Do When He’s Getting Emotionally Distant
  • stavkapro on Your Best Response When You're Not Getting the Commitment You Want
  • Turning Your YouTube Channel Into a Cash Flow. on The REAL Reason He Hasn’t Called
  • Snehal on My Boyfriend Fell Out of Love With Me
  • Nancy on Am I the Problem?

Calendar

November 2019
M T W T F S S
 123
45678910
11121314151617
18192021222324
252627282930  
« Oct   Dec »

Copyright © 2025· Getting to True Love, LLC · All rights reserved · Privacy Policy · Refund Policy · Terms of Service

We use cookies to ensure you receive the best experience on our website. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are okay with our terms :)Got it!