I know what you’re thinking: It sounds like a cliché.
Just believe! It’ll happen. Just believe it and it’ll come true.
And while there are a lot of people out there who claim the power of believing in something, that it really works, I’m going to go a step further here and talk about the power of believing that I’m referring to.
The kind for us not so sure types that get so hung up on how to do it right that we end up not getting the point of it.
It’s not just the cliché you’ve heard so many times before. It’s the real thing.
Not just the kind of believing where you pretend you believe until it actually happens. Or you keep telling yourself to believe until you end up feeling worse because you start should-ing about why you should just be able to believe and make everything happen for you and it’s not and you’re left wondering why this is so difficult when everyone out there makes it seem like it’s so easy to do this.
But what if you could just stop for a moment, shut out all the negative self-talk, all the baggage that has you second-guessing yourself about everything and just breathe for a moment.
And think of how you would be right now, in this present moment, if you knew for certain that everything was unfolding exactly how it should be for you and your journey. What if you could know for certain that there was someone out there right now asking himself the same questions you are, wondering if there’s anyone still left for him?
What if you could know for certain that no matter what the future holds, whatever path your journey is going to take, that it’s all going to be just the way that’s right for you, even if it doesn’t look like what you thought it should look like?
How would your life be different right now?
How would you feel? What would you do instead of trying so hard, worrying so much, second-guessing yourself, trying to manipulate situations and people? What if you could just … believe? Do you get that?
That’s the believing I’m talking about here.
The kind where you decide to live your life right now the way you would if you really believed everything was going exactly as planned, exactly the way your life is meant to be for you.
Because it’s true. It is. It really is.
You are exactly where you are meant to be right now and everywhere you go from here is exactly where you are meant to go.
You decide.
You can either believe in yourself, in your dreams, in your vision for the future and start living the life that reflects those beliefs, or you can stay with the negative self-talk, the second-guessing and stuck place you’ve been for far too long.
The universe and all it has to offer is just waiting for you to make that choice. It’s all up to you.
What's holding you back from believing? Share your story with all of us below in the comments!
Hi, Jane, I am so grateful for all your beautiful loving articles and videos and your amazing Program, “Beautiful, Confident, Radiant YOU!” that have helped me so much in finding out who I am, what a healthy relationship is, the power I have in choosing and accepting the right man for me in a relationship, that I never accept anything less than I deserve (that is huge!!), understanding why emotionally unavailable men act the way they do, that it is about their issues, not me, and as deeply, horribly painful as it has been to heal from a brutally verbally and emotionally abusive dad, a destructive 27 year marriage of verbal and emotional abuse (a loveless marriage) and the past 5 years of verbal and emotional abuse (loveless) from an on again, off again relationship where I was the only one in the relationship (I remember you saying this in one of your articles, Jane, and that was a very shocking moment for me and hard to take in, but I so needed to hear that!!), all of this has recently led to an amazing gentleman who is crazy about me (his words). I have known him from the past 5 years. He lives in my apartment building. We would talk from time to time. Then on Thanksgiving Day, I saw him and we talked for awhile. He now calls me and texts me throughout the day to see how I’m doing. I always text him right back. I’m letting him pursue me, as men are wired to do, and I’m just appreciating him for the caring, generous, respectful man that he is. He is someone I never thought I would be with, but the most important thing is that he treats me so well. He adds to my life. He has his life, and I have mine. He understands what I have been through in my life. I am taking things slow and just waiting to see how things unfold. If at some point, things aren’t going how I had planned, it’s okay. I will date again. I now know I don’t accept anything less than what I deserve. This makes all the difference for a healthy love-filled life. Thank you so very much, Jane, for everything you’ve helped me with, and I will continue to read your amazing blog!! Thank you so much, Jane for showing us the way and loving on us to help us heal. I thank all of you who comment. All of you have helped me so much, too!! Lots of love and hugs!! xoxoxoxoxo
Aw, thank you, Tia. You have no idea how much you've inspired me here! You go, girl. Don't ever stop believing there's so much more for you than everything you've been through that you were never, EVER meant to equate with any semblance of real love. You've been there so now you know what it won't ever be like again! Lots of love and hugs to you, too. You're a beautiful soul who deserves all the love in the world - and then some!
Jane, i am so grateful that you uploaded this video today. Believing is always a problem for me. Anxiety led me to make bad choices in the past and i still struggle with it in every area of my life. Especially my love life and my career. I have been acting like those ''not so sure'' types for a while and your video was a timely reminder for me. Much love!
So grateful this is coming through for you, Gizem! It's a process, don't ever doubt that. It may feel slow, but what's going on behind the scenes is going to one day shine a light on just how much everything was happening exactly as it was meant to be. Much love to you, too!
This believing stuff is subtle and it sort of creeps up on you I think not like a light switch more like gradually over time what you are saying actually begins to make sense or rather it feels true rather than just intellectually or rationally being persuasive. And it is not that doubts don't arrive from time to time but that is all these days and most of the time when I look around and see what a wonderful life I have (and am) manifesting I realise that manifesting a quality relationship obeys the same rules. I am noticing that different sorts of men are attracted to me these days. Not so much of the players or the otherwise unavailable men there is a different calibre these days. Haven't met my Mr Right just yet but happy to wait until he is ready for me in the meantime there is an awful lot of living to do that doesn't depend on a man being in my life. This much was apparent at a dinner last night with three other lovely ladies (mixture of single and coupled) which reminded me of a scene from Sex and the City it is fair to say I couldn't have been happier than I was a man would definitely be a cherry on the top but my cake is just fine on its own otherwise ... 🙂
So true, Paula. Subtle is exactly the way to describe how it happens. Thank you for sharing! 🙂
Jane,
In lieu of the Christmas season, I've been counting my blessings and reflecting on this past year. It started off really rough, but it slowly got better and better with the help of you, your website, your programs, and of course our talks. Thank you for being my teacher and supporter this year. You have helped me heal in ways I didn't even realize were possible and live life to the fullest! I would've never gotten through the tough times or be as happy as I am today without you. I owe a lot of my leaps and bounds and growth to you. Thank you soooo soooo much and I wish you and your family the happiest of holidays 🙂
Sincerely,
Julie
So happy to hear this, Julie. Thank you for your beautiful words. Know that it's been my pleasure and honor to be here for you; this progress is really you! Wishing you all the best life and love have to offer you this holiday season and into 2016. I know there's so many wonderful things beyond anything you could ever imagine in store for you! 🙂
believing that someday at a right time all the pain will heal and all the good things happen slowly but surely ..
and believing that one day i'm falling in love with my Mr.Right
Thank you Ms.Jane
today is our 2nd anniversary but he disappeared without a reason its been a month since this man left me unknown
i still feel this intense pain but I BELIEVED at the right time i'm going to smile again because i deserved it:)
So true, this one . If I can choose, I want to believe !
I got to believe and make new choices. I don't want to feel stuck
And have no dreams or fun!
What a boring life would that be! How depressing!
I cried and cried, reading some of these blogs helped me wake up
And wipe these damn tears! And go on!
Thank you Jane! Bless you!
I'm so glad this is helping you, Maris. Thank you!
It is helping..
Sometimes I read the blogs again.. And see my own replay from the past haha..
But still some blogs give me inspiration. To go on!
To believe.
I have my down moments.. But I believe more, way more.
I just stopped with on line dating after 3 months..
And feel a bit tired of the desaster dates haha..
So I am going to take a pause and live on.. Enjoy my summer.. Without on
Line dating. But it has been a fun time and a lesson for me.
It is a tool to meet and speak more man. And i know better to
Make a boundry and stick to it. Even if it means.. Still single & open
For meeting new men. Just not on line right now..
Thanks for the kind words and blogs.
I'm glad it's helping, Maris. It's all the little things, all the little strides and steps that add up to create a new way of seeing, a new way of being, and a new kind of relationship that will be more than you could ever have imagined!