Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
I've got a simple one for you today.
Prove it.
Prove it to yourself.
The one thing you're holding onto as your reason for not doing what it is you actually want to do. The one thing you don't believe you can be. The one thing you don't believe you can have.
Prove yourself right.
Because this is a theme that comes up time and time again in my emails and calls with you.
It's woven all throughout your stories.Continue Reading
I have one question for you today.
Do you have people in your life who actually see you? Who embrace you, who celebrate you? The real you - not the image you put out there because that's who you've been told you are, but the actual you?
Since you're here, I'm assuming you've only known relationships with men who were never the right ones for you, who had no place in your life.
I want to change that for you.
We need to create some semblance of what it feels like to be loved and accepted and adored for you. If you've never experienced anything like this before, we're going to start fresh as if today is the first day of the new you.
The you who loves to dance, who loves to move, who hears the music all around you and believes in a different world from the one you've been through.Continue Reading
It's this part that's so telling.
I hear from women just like you every day. Saying they think it's about something they have to say or do differently. They think there's some secret answer that they haven't yet uncovered, and if they can just find that, they'll have him committing in no time.
I get it, because I went on the search for this, too. I tried all of it - everything- just to try to get my answer.
Is it this?
Play it cool. Be the cool girl.
Or this?
Act like you can take or leave him.
What about this?Continue Reading
Instead of asking yourself what's wrong with you, or what you did or said wrong, or why you weren't good enough for him, there's something else you need to be asking instead. Who treats someone like this? Who withholds reassurance from someone vulnerable enough to ask for it?
You think it's you because that's what we're so programmed to believe - that it's because you said too much or the wrong thing at the wrong time. But why can't you communicate directly with someone you're getting to know, who's obviously giving you some indication he's interested or you wouldn't be here at all?
Ask yourself this; isn't there something wrong with a guy who responds to you by avoiding or ignoring you, instead of being honest with you? What does that say about him?
Don't put this on yourself, Beautiful. You're human.
No, you're not perfect. No, not everyone is going to be on the same page as you or want to be with you.Continue Reading
How do you let go and move on when you don’t really want to?
How do you stop caring when all you do is care?
Every day on my calls, this topic of letting go and moving on inevitably comes up in our conversations. Today I’m sharing with you what my beautiful clients have taught me about what works and what doesn’t from their first-hand experience of letting go and moving on when it’s the last thing you want to do, but the only thing left TO do.
On your prettiest paper, with your most colorful pen, write down all the ways he made you feel awful, all the things he did that hurt you, and all the reasons you knew you’d have to eventually let him go.
You’re going to remember all the good things about someone much more than you’ll ever recall all those things that made you feel sad and anxious and hurt.
If you write down all the bad things, you’ll have a reference when all the good things come up and you’re tempted to once again give him the benefit of the doubt or excuse his behaviors if only he would take you back and you could try again with him.Continue Reading
If it feels like you've been on this search for what seems like forever, you're not alone.
Everyone has their own version of what you're doing wrong, or what you need to be doing instead. Just ask anyone, and the number of different answers you get is enough to make anyone completely confused.
In all my years of coaching women of all ages, from all walks of life, in every corner of the world there's one common denominator that stands out.
What you believe.
The women who find love, who find what they're looking for in life, believe it's possible to find something good.
It may not seem like anything significant, because after all, how does something as intangible as what you believe translate into something as practical as meeting someone? For those of you who live and breathe the practical, the logical and the measurable, it seems almost laughable.
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