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Did I Push It Too Far Playing Hard to Get?

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Beautiful woman sitting down checking her text messages using mobile phone.
Did I play too hard to get? I'm afraid I'll never hear from him again!

Ever wondered if you can play too hard to get - and actually lose an opportunity to get someone at all?  Well, that's Jessica's question on the blog this week.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

I am so confused by this guy right now.

I would like to say he is not interested but I feel like that isn't 100 percent the case.

This guy is a player and I knew this, we met at a friends BBQ and he was pursuing me for weeks asking to see me (not to take me out but inviting me over to his house).  He was messaging me every day and asking me questions like 'how is your day going' etc. so I felt like he wasn't just after one thing.

Anyway I went to his house and we watched a few movies, we got on so well and could not stop laughing. I knew he was into me. He tried to have sex with me but I said no as I do not sleep around.Continue Reading

Do You Think He Just Used Me for Sex?

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A woman is about to kiss a man that is her romantic fantasy.
Everything seemed so perfect - did he just use me?

Our letter this week comes all the way from Hong Kong, where beautiful Laura wants to know what she should do about a guy she met 4 months ago on Tinder, who lives on the West Coast.

Here's her letter and my response:

Hi Jane,

I met this guy on Tinder 4 months ago, and after talking to each other for 1 month, he asked me out. To give you some background information, he lives in SF while I live in Hong Kong, but he works between Hong Kong and SF.

We had sex on the first date.

I know this is not good, but he said he didn't plan it and said he will see me again. So after one week working in China (we text each other every day), he came back to Hong Kong for one day and he did ask me out, said he wants to see me. Its a dinner date.Continue Reading

He Says I'm Too Emotional

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A very tired, stressed and fed up attractive woman. wondering if she's too emotional.
He says I have to change my overly emotional ways.

Beautiful Cassidy is dating a guy who tells her she's too emotional. She's reaching out for help to figure out if she should continue to see where her relationship is going, or if she's just wasting her time.

Here's her email:

I met this guy on a dating site back in early December of 2016.

We had sex shortly after meeting for the first time and I wasn't expecting to hear from him after.

Yet... I did.

We've talked everyday since the day we met. He's told me things like he has only pictured spending his life with one other female other than me (which at the time he said this, I felt, was too soon to know that) and talks about the future regularly.

He had to go back to his temporary home in another state shortly after we met but visits his home state (where I live)  every three-four months. I've asked him if he's seeing anyone else and he's certain he's only interested in me.Continue Reading

Sex On the First Date

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A beautiful woman and man are becoming intimate.
I had sex on the first date - did I ruin my chances?

Our beautiful friend, Ashley, is concerned that having sex on the first date with a guy she's crazy about may have ruined her chances for a real, long lasting relationship with him.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

Long story short, I am crazy about this guy I've been seeing for a week and half. lol.

He lives and hour and half away.

I met him at a DJ class he was teaching a few months ago. He gave me his business card and I emailed him about DJ stuff. He responded then I heard nothing from him until 2 weeks ago.

He invited me to go to a DJ cafe with him in his town. So I went we hit it off, he was a gentleman and paid for everything.

We ended up having sex that night.

And we've been texting ever since. He texts me good morning and text throughout the day. He came to my town to celebrate my birthday with me on Saturday.

I know it's kind of soon, but I want more out of this relationship, I want him to be my boyfriend. It hasn't even been a full 2 weeks yet though, and I'm nervous that having a sexual relationship with him so soon ruined my chance.

What should I do?

- Ashley

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