Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't want you?
Why would you insist you're getting something out of a relationship where you're getting nothing more than crumbs?
Why would you put yourself through this?
They don't understand. They can’t understand.
Because they’re not in it. You are. And when you're in it, there's nothing else to understand.
Except that you want him.
Except that you need him.
Except that you can't imagine your life without him.
It’s opening night.
All eyes are on the curtain as it slowly begins to rise.
There you are.
He’s looking at you like he’s never seen you before. And with good reason. He hasn’t.
Not like this.
You step out into the spotlight and he sees the woman he’s been waiting for his entire life.
You.
He can’t look anywhere else. You mesmerize him like no one else has ever done before.Continue Reading
What if you just need someone to believe in you?
All those plans, all those dreams.
They told you to find something you could actually do. They gave you all kinds of suggestions that sent the clear message they somehow knew you better than you.
They smiled to themselves, or even laughed.
But more than anything else, what they did was make you feel like there was something the matter with you.
Something wrong, something "off".Continue Reading
What would it be like if you could feel something, but not act on it?
What would it mean for you if you could observe without jumping into action right away?
What if you could see who someone was, how they were treating you, and how they responded to you without having to do something – anything – about it right that moment?
Would you feel more confident? Would you feel more in control? Would you feel more able to see what was real – and what wasn’t?
This year, I have a word for your New Year’s Resolution.
Instead of the usual full throttle, over the top resolve that we usually put on ourselves at the first of the year. Instead of setting ourselves up for failure with some kind of impossible goal that always seems to run its course in a matter of weeks and then fall off our radar.
No, this time we’re going for a simple word:Continue Reading
What do you do when you feel like you've tried absolutely everything, and you just keep winding up alone and heartbroken every time? Our letter this week comes from one of our gorgeous readers, Jamie, who's going through just that, and she's wondering what to do next.
Hello Jane,
Last May I declared to all that I wanted to create a loving, long-term, committed relationship. In the last 17 months since I made that declaration I’ve spent over 13 of them dating 5 different men to varying degrees, the last relationship ending, sadly, yesterday.
This February I went on a date with a man I met online and from the very first moment I felt excited and optimistic that I might have found a really great guy. We dated 4 and a half months and I found myself actually falling in love for the first time in a looooooong time.
I let myself go there with this guy.
I was open and vulnerable and brave. He did some things that should have been red flags to me, but I overlooked them because I was so out of my mind attracted to him, he treated me well, and I just wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.Continue Reading
One of our magnificent readers Liz, is feeling utterly powerless...
Hi Jane! First of all, I LOVE your site. Thanks for always being honest, helpful, and down to earth.
Given that, I'm hoping you can help me here.
I want SO badly to be that happy, independent, empowered single woman. I should be happy - I have my dream career, a social life, close friends and family, and my own hobbies.Continue Reading
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