Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
I’m hearing you tonight.
Another disappointment. One more loss. More hopes dashed. And it feels like nothing has changed, and never will.
Where do you go from here?
How do you get back hope when summoning up any kind of hope at all was already too much to ask?Continue Reading
I wasn’t real.
They, on the other hand, might have been. But I would never know.
Because until I was able to get real, nothing was real. What I came face to face with was the reality that I didn’t know how to be real. I was too busy trying to be perfect.
Trying to figure out what it was they wanted me to be and then being that. Trying to prove my worthiness, my perfectness, my "perfect girlfriend-ness".
That’s all I knew. And that’s what I thought mattered.
I knew I wanted someone to choose me, to make me feel like something. To give a life to fit into. To give me a world to fit into and a role to play. To give me the instruction sheet on how to do a relationship.
Just tell me what you want me to be and I’ll be it. Continue Reading
There's a reason I’m here, doing what I do.
To remind you of what you can’t see from where you are now. To remind you of your power. To remind you of your beauty.
To remind you that the only reason you can’t see what I can see is because you haven’t come to the part yet where you prove yourself wrong.
Because without proof, you can’t believe it. Without proof, it’s the hardest thing to believe what you can’t yet see.
So my message to you today as we go about celebrating the holidays in whatever way you celebrate, is to stop believing what you’ve been believing about yourself every time another holiday season comes around.Continue Reading
One of our beautiful readers, Abbie, writes to tell us about the confusion she's feeling with all the different dating advice out there.
Dear Jane,
I’m so confused.
There are so many rules out there, I’m having a hard time figuring out what I need to listen to and what I don’t.
I keep working on myself, reading up on what I need to do, but I’m getting to the point where I feel like I might as well give up on ever finding someone because for all the work I do on myself, it never seems to be enough!
Then I end up feeling like there’s something wrong with me because nothing ever works out like it’s supposed to.
Can you help me?
-AbbieContinue Reading
You’ve got your list. You know what you want this year.
Love.
Someone special to share your life with. And everything else. But nothing quite compares to love.
And finding him. Finally.
Right?
Ok, so there’s something we have to settle first. Something that’s been holding you back more than you realize, more than any of us realize.Continue Reading
We look around and we see so much of what our culture calls strength among our friends, our colleagues, our role models, almost everyone it seems. They let things roll off them, they don’t take everything so personally, they walk away without looking back.
They make everything look so much easier than the way it feels to us.
The way it feels to us.
It’s this part of us that gets the least amount of validation from the world around us and the people who are the least like us. In a world where success is evaluated by the measurable things that have nothing to do with our hearts, it’s no wonder we can feel so wrong, so misplaced, so counter to what we feel so otherwise pressured to be.Continue Reading
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