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Close up of womans hand using mobile phone on a bokeh background, symbolizing that her boyfriend doesn't text her.
I haven't heard back in more than a week.

What do you do when the guy you've been seeing for three months ghosts you and just disappears?

Poof. Nothing. He ghosted you!

That's what happened to Anna who wrote me last week with two words in her subject line.

What happened?

I know exactly what happened and I'm going to tell her and you below.

But first, here's her story:

Hi Jane,

I've been in contact with this guy who showed all signs of interest and said such sweet things to me. Things said at a start of a relationship.

Though we talked on the phone it would be at long intervals and I noticed I was the one initiating each conversation but he was always happy to talk to me. We did not meet in person a lot, about 4 times in 3 months.Continue Reading

Ghosted! How do I let go with no closure?

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Lonely sad beautiful woman feeling hurt and heartbroken holding phone because boyfriend has gone radio silent
I have no idea why he won't respond.

Ever been ghosted and had to let go without any closure? That's what Trisha's going through. If that's an all-too familiar theme for you, read on to hear her story and my response. You can also check out this video I just posted about how to get closure and move on.

Her email:

Hi Jane,

I'm having a horrible time dealing with a recent situation with an ex.

We dated for 8 months. During this time things felt ok and progressive, yet I could tell he had a wall up and I could not understand why.Continue Reading

Are you doing this too?

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Beautiful lonely girl dreamin and thinking while waiting for date in the city ocean pier at sunset time.
Are you spending all your time and energy doing this?

Don't spend any more of your time or energy on why it didn't work out, why he ghosted you or whatever else you can't let go of.

We spend wayyyyy too much time ruminating over everything we should have done differently to keep a guy.

The only retrospect you want is that he wasn't your guy.

There's lots of different guys, just this one wasn't yours!

Your goal is to meet as many men as possible and move on from the ones who ghost you or don't pursue you.Continue Reading

How does he fall out of love so easily?

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Woman sad over breakup looking at mobile phone on the city bus wondering why he doesn't love her
What I really want is closure

Have you ever wondered why this happens? You're not the only one. Read on to find out what I have to say about this!

Her email:

Hi Jane,

I am writing this to let out some steam as I don't have many friends and really have no one to talk to.

March 2020, in the first week of lockdown, I was suggested to use dating apps by my parent's to get to know more people and see if anything develops. As I am extremely introverted and like to spend majority of my time alone.

On the first week of using a dating app, I met him.

We added each other's contact information and had on and off short conversations into July when he had added my Instagram. I never initiated any of the conversations and gave short replies as I was still very skeptical of online dating and because of my shy nature, I didn't know how to start the conversations.Continue Reading

Why am I ALWAYS attracting struggling men?

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Unhappy couple after fight not talking to each other
I keep attracting men who are struggling.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you lift a broken man up to where he's finally on his own two feet, only to have him leave you for another woman? If so, you can relate to beautiful Lolly who shared her heartbreak with us today.

Here's her story:

Hi Jane,

First of all I would like to say that I appreciate you and all that you do for us as women in your "small little community", being a part of Getting to True Love has brought such a tremendous change in my life, the women in this community are just as amazing, I feel like I have gained such an amazing sisterhood.

We might all be worlds apart but you have brought us together for one reason only - to find love, first within ourselves and secondly with the men out there. Thank you.

So my question today is I have noticed that I always attract men who are struggling, be it financially and emotionally, more especially financially, it's either they are still finding their way up or I meet them at the time when things are just not going well in their careers or when their businesses are not doing well.Continue Reading

He ghosted me after I said I cared about him!

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A beautiful woman looks at her phone wondering why he suddenly disappeared.
Was it a mistake to let him know how I feel?

Our letter today comes from Tazz, who had some amazing sex with a man she met online and thought all was going great, until she made the "mistake" of telling him she cared about him and didn't want to see him hurt again.

Her Story:

I met a man online, met him a few times, had amazing sex with him, but after I told him I don't want to see him hurt again..as he is going through a divorce and trying to heal on the inside ... said he could take care of himself wanted to break from me for a bit and ghosted me.

He texted me last night he had a good day, went out on a date and missed me ... he is an amazing man and I messed up by telling him I worry about him...

I can't lose him but I'm not happy with his ghosting me either what should I do to bring him back???Continue Reading

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