Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
No one ever tells you how uncomfortable, how completely out of your comfort zone it’s going to be for you to learn a new language that includes the “I” statements you’ve never learned.
“I feel.”
“I need.”
“I want.”
“I hear.”
“I know.”
“I am.”
“I’m not.”
The list goes on and on.
Such simple words. Such foreign words. You mean I have a voice?Continue Reading
Our letter today comes from Claire, who's in a situation with her boss that she needs some advice on. Here it is, along with my response. Even if you've never been in this situation, read on because there's some underlying themes of power and control I think you'll relate to.
Hi Jane,
I am a 21-year-old female who like many other women have nowadays got involved with their boss. I have only been in the business for 7 months and I worry I could lose my job over this.
But anyway, when I started working with him I was only 20, it started off as any natural friendly relationship would, although with the casual flirtatious joke or dirty remark at times, but I thought this was part of his personality at times.
Fast forward a few months and we started messaging on Instagram and from there it turned very flirtatious although he had stated he didn't want a relationship and I had said the same thing.Continue Reading
I'm realizing I need to share more of these stories with you.
Real stories of other women just like you, finding your way here because my messages about your worth and your value resonated with you.
Real stories of happy endings, like the one you can't see when you're in the middle of what you're going through right now.
If you haven't already figured this out, I'm not just about getting a guy; I'm about finding yourself, finding your worth - finding your value - and from there, creating a life for yourself that includes you finding the guy you've been looking for all along.
That's what happens when you find yourself first. When you change your focus to you, away from him, the unexpected - the seemingly impossible at the time - always finds you.
That's what happened for Lynn.
Our letter today comes from one of our beautiful readers who's chosen to go by the name "LoveIs." Like most of us who have ever been attracted to someone because of their potential, LoveIs is reaching out today for some answers on the question of what to do when you're attracted more to someone's potential than what they're actually showing you they're capable of.
Sound familiar? Read on to find out what I have say on this very relevant question.
Dear Jane,
I love all of your content and the time you spend sharing your knowledge to the world really touches people. You're one of a kind. Would you share some of that knowledge with me today?
I tend to overlook men who are actually good for me and am attracted to men who aren't.
I'm talking about the emotionally unavailable, you chase him, mysterious, keeps you guessing, you wanna be the one to change him type. For some reason, this type of man I find comfort in which is in no way logical but alas, here we are.Continue Reading
Look around you.
Where is he?
Is he there?
Is he reaching out to you? Is he showing you he's worth all the time and energy you're spending thinking about him, wondering about him, going back over and over what you should have done instead?
No, he's not there.
He's not anywhere that you know for sure. Only in your mind. Only when you bring him up, when you remind yourself of everything he was, everything he seemed to be in what seems like such a different time and place.Continue Reading
Ever wondered how someone falls out of love? Especially if that person someone falls out of love with is you? Tori did. Read on to hear what I had to say about it.
My question is regarding how one can fall out of love with someone, when everything is the same if not better over time? I have seen many bad and dysfunctional relationships and people sticking together for the wrong reasons.
My boyfriend and I met on a dating app last May and have been together for a year. The past month he was being a little distant but in a very subtle way. He was still texting me but it felt lackluster and routine. When I would flirt with him or try to make plans he wouldn’t respond with excitement but he would respond.
When I confronted him he broke out in tears saying he didn’t know why but he felt like he was “on his way out” and felt disconnected from me.Continue Reading
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