Finding your YOU that leads to TWO
Are you doing it again?
Waiting?
Waiting for someone to change?
Waiting for someone to find you?
Waiting for someone to make it all better?
It's okay. There's no shame in admitting if you're here. I've been here. Most of the women I coach have been here before. It's my own default place.
You don't even realize you're doing it.Continue Reading
It's only been a couple months, but Wynn is head over heels for her boyfriend who's just dropped some disappointing news on her. Now she's wondering if she should wait for him or move on.
Hi Jane,
I have been dating my Marine boyfriend for a couple months now and I am totally head over heels for him.
I think he feels the same about me, but he had to move across country for school and he says that we can't be together because of the distance and because he will be too busy.
He cried so hard when he left that I don't think it's just an excuse.
Do you think he might come back for me when school is over or do you think I should just move on?Continue Reading
Ten years is a long time to be dating someone without a commitment. It's never something we set out to do, but in the case of Anne, it's where she's found herself.
Read on to hear her story, and my response, then let her know what YOU think she should do!
Hi Jane,
I've been with a guy for 10 years. There's lots of drama.
Every time I find that he's seeing some one else, he swears he's only flirting and nothing happened with them.
I'm 54 and he is 49.Continue Reading
You're too kind for him, too compassionate for him, too understanding for him, too good for him, Girl.
Sure, he needs every bit of what you've got to offer him, but he's giving you nothing in return that's even close to what you're offering him. And yet all you're doing is justifying why those crumbs are worth you.
Stop justifying. Stop making excuses. Start looking at what's right there in front of you; the facts you already know.
Yes, I know. Facts are boring. Reality isn't exciting. And this one's potential offers so much more hope than anyone else you've been with so far.
Is crying yourself to sleep exciting? Is waiting for someone to come around exciting?
Is living in the future or the past because the present is too painful, the way you pictured love was going to be?
I meet way too many of you under the worst kind of circumstances, scraping the barrel for whatever crumbs you can still get from him. I see it so clearly for you because you can't see it when he's still all you can think about or cry about - but I'll tell you this.
I've been right there where I couldn't see it either and one of these days, just like me, you're going to see it so clearly too.
Oh girl, ask yourself this; is he really worth what you're putting yourself through?
You've been waiting for someone your whole life, haven't you?
Whether it was your mom to love you, your dad to be proud of you, or your teachers to like you, your friends to include you, your boyfriends to never leave you, you've been waiting for someone to do something you wanted them to do your entire life.
To love you.
To want you.
To hold you.
To be with you.
To choose you.
To commit to you.
To never, ever leave you.
Except that never worked out the way it was supposed to.Continue Reading
So, Beautiful, we need to talk about this guy who shows you so much potential but so little else. It's the conversation we never want to have, but we have to.
Too much is at stake. There's too much to lose.
For you.
I don't care about him right now. I care about you.
I spend most of my time on the phone, over Zoom, and on my laptop talking about him. Yesterday, I spent a couple hours answering an email coaching letter saying everything I ever wanted to say to someone on this topic and it made me realize this conversation is long overdue.
I've tried so hard to be gentle with you, bringing you up to your own level of awareness so you can see this for yourself. But the letter I read today broke me.Continue Reading
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